I hear it all the time: “I want to be open, expressive, and sexual when I approach women, but I’m afraid of being a creep. How can I avoid it?”
I’ve written about it a few times in various emails and blog posts, but I’ve always struggled to find a video examples to show you what creepy really is.
Given that this is something that so much easier to understand with video examples, I’ve been looking around for one.
And today, I found it.
This is a great example of how to creep women out:
(Yes, this hard to watch but do it. It’ll help you out)
Now, the fun part – How to avoid doing this.
The first step in understanding how to avoid creeping women out is to study that video.
What about it is creepy? What exactly is it that makes the cold shiver creep up your spine?
You could suggest that it’s the words he’s using. But there’s nothing spectacularly creepy about what he’s saying… You could suggest that it was his age. But you can be 50 and be charming and dashing…
It’s deeper than that. To work out exactly why this guy creeps women out, look at his eyes.
Look at the way he looks around the crowd. Look at the pleading. Look at the quiet desperation.
It’s got nothing to do with what he’s saying or how he’s saying it. It’s got nothing to do with his age, the way he dresses or his grey hair.
The reason this guy creeps women out is the desperation behind everything he’s saying.
There’s no strength, there’s no power, there’s no confidence, there’s no ability to offer happiness or security or freedom to her world.
It’s all about one thing: what can I get from her.
He needs approval, validation, affection, and the security of having a woman want him to feel good. And that’s the very reason why they don’t want to.
It’s this neediness that’s the core of his creepiness.
Now compare it to this:
(Yes, another x-factor clip. I’m addicted to it. So what? Deal with it)
This guy is far more direct and sexual than the last and yet he’s nowhere near creepy. Kelly is all up on it!
And this one:
(Yes, ANOTHER x-factor clip. I told you I was into it)
Once again, far more sexual and direct and not creepy at all.
Why? Because there’s no neediness behind it, there’s no clingyness, there’s no quiet desperation.
It’s simply an expression of desires and drives.
So, the way you avoid being a creep isn’t by never saying what you think, how you feel, or what you find attractive about a woman.
The secret to not creeping women out is to be the kind of Man that actually has something to offer a woman.
Find your own freedom, connect with people, take control of your life, and become the Man of your dreams.
Develop your internal strength. Build your confidence. Live the kind of internally rewarding and fulfilling life that women want to be part of.
That way, when you do express your desires for a woman, it won’t come out as creepy, needy, or weird. It will be powerful, compelling, and strong.