You’re here because you want to be naturally attractive to women.
I get it.
You want to live your life, on your terms, doing what you want, and have the women you desire be attracted to you for it.
That’s great. It’s why I’m here as well.
I also get that you don’t want to run that manipulative shit that the seduction community teaches.
So what should you do?
How do you attract the women you want without resorting to the deceptive tactics of the seduction community?
Do you just stand there, fart in her general direction and hope she comes running?
Well, you could. I don’t know how well it would work, but you could try it.
(If you do, write in a let me know how you went)
So, here’s what you can do to attract women without the bullshit.
As you’ll see, it’s exactly the same actions that the seduction community teaches but there’s a core difference.
As you’re reading through, see if you can pick it.
It’s this subtle difference that separates the fake PUA from the naturally attractive Man.
And don’t worry if you can’t pick it, I’ll spill the beans at the end of the article.
So, without further ado…
The Difference Between The PUA And The Naturally Attractive Man
A PUA approaches because he’s following the 3 second rule and promised his mates he’d do 7 sets tonight.
A naturally attractive Man approaches because he sees a woman he wants to talk to and doesn’t let something like anxiety or other peoples judgements stop him from living the life he wants.
A PUA uses a openers to break the ice and transition into conversation.
A naturally attractive Man says what he’s thinking because he’s thinking it.
A PUA banters and vibes with her because he’s read that you have to do attraction before you move into rapport.
If a naturally attractive Man banters with her, it’s because he’s in a playful mood and wants to play around.
A PUA DHV’s so he can try and impress the girl and get her to be attract to him.
A naturally attractive Man just talks about his life. It happens to be quite impressive because he’s not afraid of putting himself out there and living his life on his terms. This could seem like DHVing to a PUA but he’s just sharing himself because he like just being himself.
A PUA qualifies women because he’s trying to find a way to convince her that he’s interested in something other than her looks.
A naturally attractive Man qualifies because he has standards in his life and isn’t willing to compromise on them.
A PUA has a series of tricks and techniques to pass her tests because he knows that he needs to appear strong for her to sleep with him.
A naturally attractive Man passes her tests without even noticing that she’s testing him because he just keeps doing what he wants to, regardless of what she thinks.
A PUA the moves into comfort because he knows that he needs to build a connection because attraction is fleeting.
A naturally attractive Man decides that he wants to know more about a girl so asks leading questions that get her to open up. If he has something to share about himself, then he shares it as well.
The Next Step
A PUA is stuck in his head trying to come up with the right thing to say and the right structure to follow because he’s trying to work out how to get her to sleep with him.
A naturally attractive Man is just doing what he knows to be right, when he wants to do it, because he’s not trying to hide anything or trick her into anything.
A PUA does ‘leading’ because he’s thinks it’s an easy way to isolate and demonstrate leadership skills.
A naturally attractive Man leads because he knows what he enjoys and wants to take her on a journey.
A PUA does ‘kino’ because he knows that a physical connection makes it easier to transition to sex.
A naturally attractive Man touches a woman because he thinks she’s attractive and isn’t afraid to connect physically with her.
A PUA escalates when he see’s that there sufficient comfort and attraction to transition.
A naturally attractive Man escalates when he wants to dial up the tension because that what he enjoys.
A PUA does what the script says he should do, when it says he should do it, regardless if it’s appropriate for her or enjoyable for him.
A naturally attractive Man does what he wants, when it feels appropriate, because that’s when it’s going to be the most rewarding.
A PUA is needy and clingy because he needs positive responses to feel good about himself.
A naturally attractive Man is independent and confident because he feels good, regardless of her response.
A PUA is constantly analysing her to find out if he’s doing the right thing.
A naturally attractive Man is constantly monitoring her to see if she’s the kind of woman he wants in his life.
A PUA worries about what she’s thinking about him.
A naturally attractive Man worries about what he thinks about her.
The Core Difference
The core difference here is that the PUA is focussing on trying to get something from her and the naturally attractive Man is focussing on trying to create something.
The PUA is trying to get sex / acceptance / validation / power from women.
The naturally attractive Man is trying to create the life he wants.
Because the PUA is trying to get her attracted to him so he can get sex / validation / power / acceptance, he’s needy, outcome dependent, and unsure of himself.
Because the naturally attractive Man is focussed on creating the world he wants, he centred, focussed, and 100% sure of himself.
Both pathways lead to similar actions but the HUGE difference is in the sub-communication of the actions.
The PUA is clingy, needy, outcome dependent, and looking for a positive reponse to feel good. This is communicated through all his actions.
The naturally attractive Man is strong, powerful, and confident and this is communicated through all his actions.
Guess what kind of an impact that has on the outcome…
The PUA mindest of ‘trying to get something from her’ is actually the reason that most guys come to the seduction community in the first place. They try and come up with ways to get sex / validation / acceptance from women and fail.
The seduction community teaches the tricks and tools to disguise their neediness and they use it to fool gullible women long enough to get them to sleep with them.
It doesn’t actually solve the real issue though – the fact they’re trying to use women to feel better about themselves / their life.
Is The Path Of The Naturally Attractive Man For You?
If you’re still unsure whether this path is for you, then consider this:
What would be different if you focussed on being naturally attractive (living your life on your terms and creating the life you want) rather than trying to do attraction (following a set of tricks and techniques to pretend you’re someone you’re not)?
What would change about the way you move around a club?
What would change about the where you focus when you’re talking to a woman?
What would change about the way you look at women?
What would change about the way you talk to women?
What would change about the way you think around women?
What would change about the way you feel around women?
If you can’t see any benefit in working on becoming a naturally attractive Man then I wish you well on your PUA journey.
But, if it any time, you get sick of the bullshit, fake, manipulative games that you’re being taught to do, please come back and read this post again. You might find the missing piece of the puzzle.