This is one for all the spiritual guys out there.
The evils of the Ego gets a lot of attention from all the spiritual teachers out there.
The Ego has been blamed for everything from the breakdown of relationships to creating wars! But no-one’s really given you a game plan to both identify and overcome it.
So, what I’m going to give you today is an easy, step by step guide to overcoming the Ego.
Step 1: Identify
The Ego is a little difficult for most people to identify. Most literature on it identifies symptoms of the Ego without really cutting to the core.
The literature identifies arrogance, stubbornness, fear of judgement, fear of failure, amongst others, but it misses the key point.
All of these elements have one core element in common: they only occur when you’re dependent on the external environment to feel the way you want to feel.
When you rely on the other peoples perceptions to feel good, then you’re going to fear judgement, you’re going to fear failure, you’re going to fight to prove a point that you know is wrong, and you’re going to try and blame others for your situation in life.
This is what’s at the core of the Ego: being dependent on the external environment to feel the way you want to feel.
I go into depth about this in Endgame. You can read about it as part of the free section of Endgame that you can download it for free here: www.attractioninstitute.org/book/free-chapter
I refer to it as Getting in Endgame but you could easily substitute that name for The Ego.
Step 2: Understand
You don’t just do this out of habit. There’s a reason you’re fighting and struggling to make the external environment give you what you want:
You currently don’t have what you want.
You currently don’t feel the way you want to feel.
If you felt satisfied, fulfilled, happy, and complete, you wouldn’t be relying on anything to make you feel the way you want to feel.
It’s only because you don’t feel the way you want to that your Ego is even rearing it’s head.
Think about it:
If you felt deeply connected to people around you, would you really care what other people’s opinions were?
If you felt powerful, strong, and free, would you really care if you didn’t get the exact outcome you wanted?
There’s only one reason that your Ego is sticking it’s head into your business and that’s because you don’t feel the way you want to.
The way to overcome your ego for good is to feel the way you want to feel so the Ego becomes unnecessary.
When you feel the way you want to feel, you’ll stop needing anything from the world around you. Simple.
Step 3: Transform
If the ego is the part of yourself that relies on the external environment to feel the way you want to feel, and it only occurs because you don’t currently feel the way you want to feel, then what do you do?
Go on, guess.
When you think about it, it’ll be very obvious.
The way to overcome the Ego and all it’s inherent limitations is to find a way to feel the way you want to feel, that doesn’t rely on the external environment.
When you can feel the way you want to fee, regardless of what’s going on around you, then you wont have to deal with the symptoms of the Ego because it simply wont exist.
By doing this, you remove the foundation of the ego, thus making it vanish.
There are two different pathways to experiencing everything you want, regardless of what’s going on around you. I call them Doing and Creating.
Whilst I would love to go into depth about them now, it takes me nearly 30 pages to do so in Endgame so I’m afraid it’s not possible, so here’s a quick overview of Doing.
Doing is learning to find what you’re looking for through the actions you take, rather than the outcomes of those actions.
For example: Say you currently feel powerless and want to feel powerful, there are many different ways you could do it.
You could try and make people do tasks for you.
You could try and make yourself look better than them by putting them down.
You could try and hide the parts of yourself that you think are inferior and accentuate the parts that you think are superior.
The limitation of all of these is that they rely on other peoples actions or responses to determine how you feel. The limitation of all of these is that they’re operating from the Ego.
But these aren’t the only ways to feel powerful.
You could push through a big fear and do something that scares you.
You could take an action that challenge yourself to do something that you didn’t think was possible for you to do.
Both of these would allow you to feel powerful without you having to rely on how the external environment responds to you. You’d be independent.
Obviously, this is a VERY brief overview of Doing so, if you want to get a thorough understanding of everything you can do to overcome your Ego for good, you can get your own copy of Endgame here:
In it, I go into explicit depth about the different pathways, how they function, and then most importantly, what you can do to transition between them.
Step 4: Critique
The ego is such a widely debated topic that I’m sure some of you out there have an opinion on this.
I’d love to hear it.
Please share your thoughts below.
What’s missing? Where does this theory fall down? Let me have it!