Self Respect – You know you need it.
You know it’s going to help you be more confident, strong, and attractive to women, but no-one is saying how to build it.
So, let me make it easy for you.
I want you to visualise someone you respect. It can be a friend, your boss, someone you’ve read about, or someone you’ve never even met before.
Man or woman, it doesn’t matter.
What is it you respect about them? Yes, I’m sure they’ve achieved great things, but beyond that, how do they live their life?
What characteristics and traits do they live their life with that you respect?
In case you’re having issues coming up with characteristics, here’s a list to get your head moving in the right direction:
– Big picture thinking
What characteristics do they exemplify?
Now you have that list, answer this question:
How much more self-respect would you have if you lived your life with these characteristics?
If, instead of waking up in the morning and just running through the same old patterns and routines you’ve been going through for the last 5 / 10 / 15 / 30 years, you woke up and lived your life with these characteristics…
…how much more self-respect would you have?
This is the secret to building rock solid self-respect: living your life in a way that you respect.
It really is that simple.
When you live your life in a way that you respect, surprisingly, you start to respect yourself.
It’s not complicated. It’s not confusing. It’s surprisingly simple when you think about it. It just involves logically thinking about what you want to achieve and the simplest and easiest way to do it.
But now, the fun stuff starts.
It’s one thing to know that you need to live your life in a different way, it’s another thing completely to know what that actually means.
So let’s break it down.
I’m going to assume, without any knowledge of who you are and what you respect, that courage appears on your list.
Why? Because it appears on just about everyone’s list.
So, what would it mean that live your life with courage? What would change about your life?
The secret here is to think about specific situations and specific examples so you can come up with specific actions you can take.
What would change when you see that cute blonde sitting at the bus stop, listening to music on her iPhone, waiting for her bus to come?
What would change when that smart dressed corporate brunette looks up from her meal in the food court and smiles at you?
What would change when you’re surprised by the girl-next-door redhead in the middle of the street asking you for the time?
What would change about your life if you chose to live it with courage?
What would change when your boss asks if anyone has anything they’d like to add when the meeting’s about to conclude, and you’ve been sitting on a great idea for months?
What would change when that new business opportunity crosses your path?
What would change…
And, most importantly, how much more respect would you have for yourself?
Now, go through every characteristic on your list and ask yourself the same questions, especially ‘How much more respect would you have for yourself?’
But, knowing isn’t enough. Being able to see exactly how much more respect you’d have for yourself isn’t enough. Change only happens through action.
You won’t experience more self-respect until you start to do something. So here’s a something for you to do.
Once again, I’m going to assume that courage is on your list of traits that you respect.
Your task, right now, is to find something that requires a little bit of courage and do it.
It doesn’t have to be the scariest thing you’ve ever done. It just has to be something that pushes you to be a little more courageous than you normally would be.
Maybe it’s calling that girls number you got three weeks ago but never had the balls to follow up.
Maybe it’s sending that email to your boss telling him about how much more efficiently things could be run if you follow his ideas.
Maybe it’s getting in touch with your ex-girlfriend and seeing if the spark is still there.
Whatever it is, make sure you do it right away. Don’t put it off till tomorrow. Don’t wait until next week.
Don’t allow the excuse of “I’m not feeling right” or “I’m not in the zone”, do it now and start to experience the self-respect you’re looking for.
Once you’ve done that, post the action you took below and inspire others to do the same.
P.S. Yes, do it now. Don’t wait. Don’t delay.
If you can’t come up with anything that might stretch you beyond your comfort zone, here’s a default. Walk outside your house or work or wherever you’re reading this, find a beautiful woman, and make contact.
If you’ve never approached a woman before, just walk past her and smile.
If you’re used to talking to women but have never approached a woman, say “Hi”
If you’re used to saying “Hi”, compliment her.
I think you get it.
Do something that requires courage and take one step towards building the self-respect you want.