Getting in touch with what you really desire is one of the core elements of…
…becoming naturally attractive to women.
After all, if you don’t know what you want, then you can’t experience it. And if you can’t experience it without her, then you’re always going to be needy and dependent on her to give it to you.
I’ve had two separate conversations this week with guys asking what they can do to work out what they really want.
So, I thought I’d share this really easy technique for working out exactly what you want so that you can take the first and most important step in becoming naturally attractive to women.
Here’s how it works:
The first thing you need to know is that on your deepest level, what you really want is an experience.
It can be easy to look at the flashy, nice, things that you want and assume that they’re what you really want. But they’re not. They’re the surface level.
What you really desire lies behind those objects and actions. You desire experience. All those flashy, nice, shiny things are just a way for you to have a specific experience.
You think you want a really impressive car? Sure you do. But why? What would you experience by having a really impressive car? How would you feel if you got it?
This can be hard to work out so here’s how you get in touch with what you really want.
1.Write a list of everything object and outcome that you want.
Seriously, take time to sit down and write it out. It just needs to be a dot point list of everything you can think that you want.
I’m going to go with a really hot girlfriend. I’m sure most of you guys can identify with this one.
2. Describe what your perfect scenario when you get that object or outcome
Imagine yourself getting that object or outcome. What does the situation look like? Where are you? Who’s there? What are they doing? Go into specific detail about the whole situation and the events leading up and proceeding you getting the object or outcome.
If you have time, go through every item on the list and work it out. If you don’t just do the 5 most appealing things.
I’m in a nightclub with a whole big group of my mates. I see that girl across the bar and I know she’s the one I want. I put down my drink and without even looking back, or thinking about what other people are thinking, I walk across the bar, straight up to her, and start talking to her. Straight away, she starts to give me those puppy dog eyes and within 5 minutes we’re making out. 10 minutes later, we’re walking out of the bar and everyone is staring at me. They’re all jealous, especially my mates. They all wanted her but I got her.
3. Notice how you feel in that imagined future.
Go through every scenario you imagined and work out what you would exprience in that situation.
Whatever sensation you experience in that imagined future is what you really desire. It’s the core desire behind the surface level object or outcome.
Do you feel validated?
What do you experience in that moment?
Whatever you experience is what you really desire and you think the object or outcome is what’s going to give you that experience.
I would feel powerful and in control. I would feel like The Man. Like I was untouchable.
My core desire would be to feel powerful, in control, untouchable, like I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, and no-one can stop me.
Why you NEED to know this
This is FUNDAMENTALLY important to understand because it gives you the clues about what you need to do to become naturally attractive.
A naturally attractive Man is a Man who is able to give freely to the world without asking for anything in return. The only way you can give freely to the world without asking for anything in return is to already have everything you’ve ever wanted.
You can’t give yourself the experience you desire if you don’t know what experience you desire.
That’s why this is the first and most important step.