This is the next installment of the ‘Thought of the day’ series. These are little quotes, sayings, and (mostly) questions that I ask myself to keep me moving towards the life I want to create.
Today’s is one of my favourites:
Who is the Man of your dreams?
This question isn’t about finding some dude who I’m in love with or working out who embodies the traits that I want to embody.
It’s a question to bring my focus to how I want to live my life.
I use this to help me bring things into perspective, especially when I’m confused about what I should be doing or how I should be living my life.
Times when I might ask myself this are when I’m sitting in front of a project that I don’t feel like doing, when I’m about to start a tough conversation, or when I’m about to do anything scary.
My answer to this question is:
He is considerate.
He is honest.
He is understanding.
He is generous.
He is courageous.
He is open.
He is focussed.
He is dedicated.
He is a Man of his word.
If I ever find myself in a situation where I’m not sure what to do, asking ‘who is the Man of your dreams?’ helps me work out what is the right course of action.
What you’ll notice about this list is that there’s no external perceptions or outcomes listed on here.
I haven’t said he’s funny, charismatic, or attractive. Why? Because you can never be those things to everyone. Some people might hate you, others might like you. Some might find you attractive, others might find you repulsive.
There’s no point including things on your list that are impossible to achieve. Just stick to ways of engaging and relating to the world.
So, who is the Man of your dreams?
How does he engage his world? How does he relate to other people? How does he relate to himself?
Don’t focus on the outcomes of his actions or the way he’s perceived because they are completely out of your control. Focus only on how he lives his life.
Don’t focus on how much money he has or how many women he can attract, focus on the way he engages his work and how he interacts with women.
Share your answers below.