I know a lot of people who say ‘Yes, you should smile when talking to women. It makes you appear more friendly and attractive to women.”
That sounds great I theory, but if you take a quick look under the surface, you’ll see just how bad an idea it is try and appear more friendly and attractive to women.
In fact, it’s such a bad idea, that if you’re doing this, you need to stop because it’s one of the reasons you’re not getting the success you want.
Let me explain.
Do you have any hot, single, female friends? If so, just drop me their email addresses at leigh@attra… Just kidding (but seriously…).
If so, have you ever listened to them complain about guys?
What’s the number one complaint they have about the guys they talk to?
I don’t know about your friends but the beautiful, fun, cool, women in my life all complain that there’s a lack of real Men.
They’re sick and tired of being hit on by little boys who have to get drunk, or come up with excuses to talk to them, or who try and impress them by lying, exaggerating, or changing themselves just to impress her.
They want a Man who can stand on his own to feet, proudly, state who he is, what he stands for, and can take action to make the world he wants.
They’re not looking for a little boy they have to baby all the time. They want a Man so they can just be a Woman. No more of this ambiguous gender identities shit.
Here’s why smiling is such a bad idea:
If you’re smiling just to make her think you’re more friendly, cool, and attractive than you really are, which category do you fit into?
Does a ‘real Man’ (under whatever definition you choose to use) change himself just to make a woman think he’s more attractive?
Does he smile just to make women want to be with him?
Or does he just do what he wants, when he wants to do it?
Smiling so that women will think you’re more attractive is one of the fastest ways to appear needy and dependent because you’re being needy and dependent.
You’re changing yourself, just so that she’ll think differently of you.
You’re being someone you’re not and doing something that doesn’t represent how you really feel, just so that she’ll like you more.
And I don’t think I have to tell you how unattractive neediness is…
Doing anything to make her think differently of you is the fastest way to put yourself into the ‘little boy’ category. It’s the fastest way to ensure that you don’t attract the high calibre women you want.
Now, I’m not suggesting that you should never smile. If you feel like smiling, then great, smile! Smile your heart out!
But do it for you.
If you’re doing it to impress her, to get her to like you, to make her think you’re someone you’re not, then you’re just going to end up in the same basket as every other little boy she’s had to fight off tonight.
Live your life on your terms. Do what you want.
If you feel like smiling, smile. If you feel like complimenting her, then compliment her.
BUT, if you disagree with her, then disagree with her. If you don’t like what she says, then don’t say so. If you don’t find what she says funny, then don’t laugh.
Don’t put yourself in the same category as EVERY other guy who’s hit on her and try and change her perceptions of you through little boy tricks.
Am I suggesting that you should walk up to a woman frowning and angry and be an arsehole to everyone? No, I’m not. I’m not telling you what you should do. It’s your life and you can do what you want with it.
But, here’s the really important part.
If you find that you’re not naturally smiling when you’re talking to people and you want to smile more in your life, consider this:
Why are you living a life that doesn’t make you smile?
Why have you created a world that doesn’t make you smile when you wake up in the morning and leave you feeling fulfilled and happy when you go to bed at night?
If your immediate response to that question was “Because I don’t have…” then there’s something you need to know.
The fact you’re not smiling has nothing to do with what you have or who you have in your life.
It’s something far deeper.
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