I’m very fortunate in that through my work, I get to meet some incredible people.
Some are more aware of their skills than others and today, I’ve had the pleasure of interacting with the most skillful Man who ever lived…
He had such a highly developed set of skills that were so specifically developed and so attuned to his environment that it just blew me away.
He was perfectly adapted to coping with his environment. It was amazing to see the width and depth of his range.
Would you like to meet him? Well, I’m about to give you the opportunity.
Here’s what you need to do: close your eyes.
Don’t muck around with this! Really tight (how’s reading this working for you?). Great. Now open them. Look down, then at your arms, then your legs, and there he is.
The Man I’m talking about is you.
“You’re fucking mental!”
I’m not mental. I’m just looking through the bullshit and seeing you for who you really are.
Throughout the course of your lifetime, you’ve developed a skill-set that you thought was going to help you get through your world with the greatest amount of pleasure and the least amount of pain.
The very specific set of skills you’ve developed is what you thought was going to help you deal with your reality the best.
You learned not to say what you think so you didn’t get hurt. Or you learned to emotionally disconnect so you didn’t get hurt. You learnt to deal with your reality in the best way you thought possible.
Your skills are the product of a perfect mechanism in your brain that designed to help you get through any situation in the way you think is going to help you the most.
What’s the standard skill-set?
For the standard guy just getting into the dating community, his skill set consists of an AMAZING ability to analyse and interpret information.
He’s able to take the things he sees in the world, break it down, come up with a select group of possible meanings and then decide which one is most appropriate – based on his past experience.
This set of skills is INVAULABLE in many environments.
This kind of logical analysis is perfect for the office environment, or on a sporting field, or travelling to new destinations.
It allows you to predict logical sequences, anticipate possible scenarios, and create solutions prior to them arriving.
Just because this skill set doesn’t translate directly to success with women, doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with it. It’s just better suited to specific environments.
If you’re now finding that those skills aren’t helping you to get what you want, then it’s time to change. But I have to stress, there’s nothing wrong with you.
You’re not broken and there’s nothing that needs to be fixed.
There is nothing wrong with you.
David Beckham has a developed a very specific set of skills. His skill set helps him amazingly well on the soccer field, but how do you think that same skill set would do him in competitive rugby? Or in an Olympic swimming race?
In order to be successful in those areas, he’d have to develop a brand new set of skills.
Just because he’s a shithouse archer, does it mean he’s no good? Just because he can’t build a clear span bridge, does it mean he’s not a valuable person?
You are an amazingly skillful person.
You have perfectly adapted to what you thought was going to get you through your reality.
Just because it’s not working for you now, it doesn’t mean shit about how valuable you are. All it means is it’s time to change what you’re doing.
Be incredibly proud of the skills you’ve developed.
They took a huge amount of time and effort to create. They’re the product of a perfect mechanism inside your head. You have a brain that is capable of incredible feats.
Your current skill set is clear proof that you can learn any set of skills if you want to.
Give yourself the respect you deserve.
All you have to do now is work out what you want to do and which set of skills you think is going to be there.
Whatever path you choose, whatever set of skills you think is going to work best for you, I wish you all the best.
Just remember, if anyone tries to tell you you’re broken, you’re imperfect, you’re flawed, it’s simply because they’re unaware of just how perfect they are, and every person really is.