If you haven’t watched Californication, you need to. What a great show. Except for the current season. I don’t know if they got new writers or if they just ran out of ideas but it’s really gone down hill…
Anyway, you’re not reading this to find out what I think of Californicaiton, you’re reading this because you want to know how to be like Hank Moody.
So, here we go.
First of all, a little clip to get your juices flowing.
Now, the fun stuff. I’ll break it down into a few steps so it’s easier to pull apart and criticise 🙂
How to be like Hank Moody – Step 1: Get deep
This video is key. Watch it nce for pleasure. Then, once you’ve cleaned yourself off, watch it again, but this time, pay a little more attention.
Don’t get caught up watching his actions, go deeper.
Not into his eyes, that’s a little gay… Not that there’s anything wrong with that.
Look beyond his actions, his movement, his swagger…
Look to the underlying way he engages the world.
Is he focussing on what she might think of him? Is he focussing on what anyone might think of him?
He’s smoking in a supermarket and walking away from a hot chick in a Bikini who’s asking him for advice.
Do you think he really cares what anyone else might think of him?
The first step in being like Hank Moody is to look past all the actions, movements, and style and see that it’s the core of Hank that matters.
He’s not living his life for anyone other than what he desires. He’s doing what he wants, saying what he wants, living the life that he wants, when he wants to live it.
Now, here’s the fun part: if you copy what Hank is doing so that you’re more like him, are you going to be living your life based on what you want to do and what you believe is right?
No. You’ll just be copying someone else.
Does Hank Moody copy anyone else?
It’s ironic… The way to be like Hank Moody is to stop trying to be like Hank Moody because Hank Moody isn’t trying to be like anyone.
To be like Hank Moody, you first have to try to be yourself.
You have to let go of what other people think and focus on what you want. Nothing else.
How to be like Hank Moody – Step 2: Find the barrier
The next step is to work out what’s preventing you from doing what you want.
Is it social conditioning? Maybe… But has anyone ever done anything that went outside their social conditioning? Then is social conditioning really stopping you?
Is it the judgements and criticisms of others? Maybe… But has anyone ever done anything despite the judgements and criticisms of others? Then are they really stopping you?
Do the judgements and criticisms of others stop Hank Moody?
It’s not these things or anything external. The only person who’s stopping you doing what you want and living the Californication dream is you.
Social conditioning, judgments, fear, all these things happen in your world and you then decide not to take the action you want to.
It might feel like they’re preventing you but it’s just the choice you make that prevents you.
How to be like Hank Moody – Step 3: Deal with it
It’s not the fears, doubts, insecurities or judgements that are preventing you from becoming the Man you want to be.
It’s you that is preventing you from living the life you desire.
Specifically, it’s the decision you’re making in those key moments when these ‘barriers’ present themselves.
But, you’re not making a decision based out of nothing, you’re making it for a reason. Why? Because there’s an underlying layer that’s driving the decisions you’re making.
Would you like to know what that is?
It’s simple – It’s your purpose.
Your purpose, as I define it, is: how you’re trying to achieve the experience of life you desire.
If you’re holding yourself back and running away from the judgements of others, then I would suggest that you’re trying to experience some kind of positive emotion (happiness) and the way you’re trying to achieve it is through running away from fear and the judgements of others.
Do you think Hank finds his happiness through getting the approval of other people?
If you learnt how to find your happiness through a path other than trying to make people like you, you’d be more able to live the life of Hank Moody.