March 29, 2019 at 1:58 pm #21656
Hey everyone. My name is Paul and I’m 20 years old, originally from Mexico City and my parents are from Korea.
I found out about this place because I bought Endgame a few years back. I’ve been on a wild journey and am still trying to find my way.
For the past couple years, I’ve felt stuck, which I feel sucks considering I was a teenager. I feel like I still don’t know what I want out of life and I’m not disciplined enough to get what I think I want.
Recently, I’ve felt completely out of control of my life. I can’t wake up on time to get to my classes or even do homework. I mean, I still have a ton of good things in my life that I’m grateful for – my family, friends, great life opportunities and skills. Everything is there for me to take. The problem is I feel like I’m not ready to be a happy, successful person.
If there’s anything you guys think could help me out, please let me know.March 31, 2019 at 9:14 am #21665
Welcome, mate. Good to have you here.
That last line of your introduction is interesting. What do you mean that you ‘don’t feel like you’re ready to be a happy, successful person’?
I’ve never heard that before.March 31, 2019 at 9:23 am #21673
I’m not too sure myself. An example is that I’ve always wanted to get married, but I tell myself “I need a few years to grow up and find myself,” which is fine. But the problem is that I do that with everything. I can’t talk to women properly because I’m afraid I’m not attractive, or even worse, I’m scared they will find me attractive and want to be with me but I’ll end up messing up or not be enough for them.
I want to be a writer but I don’t spend time writing these days. Writing is not some crazy dream you have to prepare for years like becoming a doctor. I could start now but I just feel like, where would I be if I started living that kind of life? The life I want.
I feel like I don’t want to find out what a great life is like because it sounds so different from what I’m used to.April 1, 2019 at 3:50 pm #21691
You have a fascinating brain 🙂
Would you say your issue is more down the path of a fear of change? Or a fear of failure? Or something else completely?April 1, 2019 at 5:46 pm #21695
I sometimes feel that I’m trying to save the good moments for later. Like once I’m a better person, I’ll write. once I have a better life, I’ll get a girlfriend. I guess it’s a kind of perfectionism.
I’m afraid I’ll change and it won’t be into exactly a person I want to be. I’m afraid that I’ll get what I want but not everything. In a way, I want to control every step of the process and be aware of what’s happening. That way, if I become a better person, I know how to do it again if I go through some fucked up shit that makes me a fucked up person again.
Wow, I never went that deep with it.
It’s like, if I become the person I want to be, but I didn’t get there by myself and my own willpower, so I even deserve to claim it? Like, I know change is uncontrollable and I should let things take their course and correct as I go but I don’t want to leave things to chance.
Also, I’m afraid I just don’t have it in me to live the life I want to. What if I don’t square up to being who I want to be? What if I end up not wanting what I think I want? I’m in my head too much.April 2, 2019 at 7:29 am #21699
Interesting. So, I’m just trying to understand what’s going on here so I’m clear. You would say the following is an accurate summary of what’s going on:
You want to have the power and control over your life to shape it in any way you want and you’re afraid you’ll never get it.
Is that accurate? Or are you looking for something else?April 2, 2019 at 10:16 am #21701
That’s how my subconscious feels I’d say.
I want to be okay with not being able to control everything be okay with not getting exactly what I want.April 2, 2019 at 4:46 pm #21709
Actually, that’s bullshit.
I’m trying to live a life that other people have set out for me. I’ve been doing that for so long and trying to give into that that I don’t know what I want anymore.April 3, 2019 at 8:44 am #21726
Ahhh… now we’re getting somewhere. Good work getting to that point.
If you’re still not convinced that living someone else’s life plan is a bad idea, read this: https://lifeoperatingsystem.com/11-reasons-you-must-stop-living-your-parents-life-plan/
If you’re ready to find yours, read this: https://lifeoperatingsystem.com/life-vision/
They should help.June 8, 2019 at 2:10 am #23041
Hi,I am here too!!!!
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