Limiting beliefs are your silent barriers to success.
They’re the invisible hands tugging at your shirt when try to cross the club floor to talk to the cute blonde who’s been eyeing you off all night.
They’re the quiet whispers inside you head telling you all the reasons you shouldn’t ask for her number.
They’re the concrete in your boots, anchoring your feet to the pavement every time you even think about approaching the stunning brunette on the opposite footpath
They’re the stickiness in your mouth, making you fumble over your words, every time you try to express how attracted you are.
They’re the undercurrent, running in the background, turning what should be fun, simple, and easy into frustrating, difficult, and hard.
If you didn’t have limiting beliefs, the art of becoming the Man of your dreams would be much simpler.
Instead of working out ways to overcome your approach anxiety, you’d be working out ways of to have more fun and be more playful with women.
Instead of working out ways to express yourself sexually, you’d be working out ways to be more in touch with what she needs and when is a good time to express yourself.
Instead of working out how to get out of your way and ask out the cute girl who sits behind you in class, you’d be working on ways to be more spontaneous and alive.
Eliminating your limiting beliefs is a game changer.
It gets rid of all the mundane, repetitive barriers and allows you to play with the FAR more enjoyable areas of meeting, attracting, and seducing women.
So, how do you deal with them? How do you make them go away?
The first step I eliminating your limiting beliefs is understanding what you’re really up against.
You see, not every limiting belief is the same and not every person has the same limiting beliefs.
Some guys have limiting beliefs about their height. Some guys have limiting beliefs about the weight. Some guys have limiting beliefs about the ethnicity (shout out to all my yellow brothers :-)).
If you’re going to eliminate your limiting beliefs, you first need to identify what your limiting beliefs are.
That way, you know what exactly what you’re up against and you’re not just firing arrows into the dark.
If you haven’t done this before, it might seem a little challenging, so here’s how you identify your limiting beliefs:
A limiting belief is perception you have of yourself or the world that prevents you from taking action. It’s a thought in your head that limits you.
That means the easiest way to work out what your limiting beliefs are, is to put yourself in a situation where you know you should take action, you know you can physically take action, but for some reason, you don’t.
Then when you’re in that situation, notice the thoughts that come up whilst you’re there.
A classic example is approaching women.
You know that you just need to walk towards her and say “Hi”, you know that you have the physical skills to do it, but for some reason, you don’t.
But why don’t you? What’s in your way? What do you think is going to happen? And WHY do you think it’s going to happen?
Your limiting belief is the ‘why?’
Think she’s going to reject you? Sure. That’s pretty common. But why do you think she’s going to reject you?
Is it because of your height? Then your limiting belief would be “Women aren’t attracted to me because of my height.”
Is it because you’re Asian? Then your limiting belief would be “White women aren’t attracted to me because I’m Asian.”
Is it because you always screw things up? Then your limiting belief would be “Women aren’t attracted to me because I’m a failure.”
The limiting belief is the ‘Why?’
So, here’s your challenge for today.
I’m currently putting together a big post about how to eliminate your limiting beliefs and I need you help with it.
In order to make the article as thorough as possible, I need a comprehensive list of limiting beliefs and I need to know which ones are the most common.
I need your help with this: I need you to tell me what your limiting beliefs are.
Go out and put yourself in a situation where you know that you should be taking action, you have the physical tools to take action, but for some reason, you hold yourself back.
This can be just seeing a beautiful woman you want to talk to at the bus stop, but you hold yourself back.
This can be flirting with the cute girl at the coffee store, but not asking for her number.
This can be getting in the elevator with the stunning receptionist from the 11th floor, but not even being able to say “Hi”
This can be wanting to ask the new girl in class if she wants to join your study group, but letting her walk right by you out of class.
Any situation where you know you need to take action, but you fail to do so.
Then, as you’re wallowing in self pity, ask yourself the two most important questions:
1. What was I afraid of happening?
2. Why would that happen?
These two questions will tell you your limiting beliefs.
When you know what your limiting beliefs are, share them in the comments below.
By doing this, you’ll help me identify exactly what you guys are working through so the article is a thorough as possible.
When I have a big list, I’m going to sift through them all, and see what I can come up with.
You don’t have to do this if you don’t want to. But just be aware that if you don’t, your specific limiting belief may be left off the list and you won’t get the answers you need.
If you’re willing to take on this challenge and help find an answer to eliminate limiting beliefs, post a comment below saying that you’re taking on the challenge so that other guys see they’re not alone in this.
NOTE: Part 2 has just been published, you can access it here.