All Women Are Bitches!

Women can be mean. Women can be cruel. Women have a seemingly endless capacity to absorb your best intentions without even offering sex in return.

You’re right, it’s not fair. It’s not just. It’s not how the evolutionary forces should have worked. But they have. And they did. And now you’re stuck on the losing side of the scoreline.

Again.

And again.

With nothing to show for all your hard work.

Why? You want me to say “They’re bitches”. I know you do because that’s what you think. That’s what’s going through your mind. But I won’t. I’m not going to say it. I’m going to do something even better.

I’m going to give you a solution that means your life goals and ambitions will never be strangled by the fairer sex again and you can become a powerful, confident man free to live his life on his terms.

It’s a 4-step process that will help you understand what and how women are taking advantage of your giving nature and how to avoid it for good.

Step 1. Understand the situation

Getting ignored by women sucks. Getting rejected by them can hurt. Getting laughed at can be painful. I know because I’ve been there myself. I’ve looked into her eyes, opened my heart and shared how I felt and been left with nothing but a cold and unforgiving stare.

I blamed women a lot – for the pain, the frustration, and the embarrassment until one particularly introspective day, I asked myself a very important question:

“Why?”

  • Why was I being ignored? There were plenty of other guys that weren’t being ignored, why was I being ignored
  • Why was I being rejected? There were plenty of other guys that weren’t being rejected
  • Why was I being laughed at? There were plenty of other guys not being laughed at

What was different about them? The obvious truth was more painful than the lack of attention, rejection, and laughter combined.

  • I was being ignored because they didn’t find me interesting. Women were paying attention to the guys they were interested in and ignoring the ones who weren’t
  • I was being rejected because they didn’t find me attractive. Women were flirting with the guys they were attracted to and were rejecting the ones who weren’t
  • I was being laughed at because I was worthy of being laughed at. Women were laughing at the dorky, boring, losers and laughing with the cool, fun guys

It wasn’t the fault of the women. It was all on my shoulders. I was either being too needy and clingy or approaching women who clearly weren’t ready to be approached. I was either holding myself back and not talking about interesting things or I was approaching women who weren’t my type.

If you’re hurting, if you’re sick of being laughed at, if you’re sick of being ignored, it’s time to stop looking outside yourself and start looking inside.

Yes, there are external forces at play. Yes, you can’t control how she feels about you. Yes, she might just be a bitch. But, there is always something that you contributed to the situation that you can change.

If you were being real, powerful, authentic, and approaching confident, radiant, and strong women, then you wouldn’t be rejected.

If you were expressing yourself openly and freely and approaching women who valued that kind of expression then you wouldn’t be ignored.

Women aren’t the problem. You’re the problem.

This might come as a rude shock. This might even make you angry, but at the end of the day, when you strip the problem right back to the core, this is all that’s left.

It’s your fault that women are ignoring you.

It’s your fault that women are rejecting you.

It’s your fault that women are laughing at you.

It’s not their fault. It’s yours.

Step 2. Discover the true source of pain

I want you to imagine a different version of yourself:

  • One that’s confident, powerful, free, and open
  • One that has an intrinsically rewarding life filled with deep and powerful connections, where you get to wake up every morning and make a real difference to the world
  • A version of yourself that has you excited when you wake up in the morning and feeling a deep sense of completion when you lie your head down to sleep at the end of the day.

I want you to imagine this version of yourself walking through the morning sun, basking under its tender touch as you move from one exciting possibility to another.

As you round a street corner and scan your eyes through the crowd, you catch your first glimpse of her.

At first, all you can see is a soft halo of light as the sun catches the fringes of her hair. But as she bounces and glides through the crowd, you can see more: the radiant smile, the warm eyes, the effortless way she floats amongst the thriving crowd with ease. Nothing seems to phase her as she makes her way towards you.

Spending the last week pushing towards what you believe is a beautiful and worthy cause has left you feeling strong, in control, and powerful and you decide to put it all to good use.

“Hi” you announce with a warm smile when she gets within hearing distance. Her big eyes track your voice back to your lips and she lifts them to meet your gaze. As the first hint of a smile starts to draw across her face, she turns her eyes forward again and keeps walking down the street.

She doesn’t stop.

She doesn’t chat.

She doesn’t ask your name and she doesn’t give you hers.

She just keeps walking on her way.

In that moment, how do you think you would feel?

And not the current ‘you’, but the new version of you.

The version of ‘you’ that finds his sense of self-worth in the work he does rather than in the way people respond to him. The version of you that connects deeply with all people rather than just waiting for a beautiful woman to come along and fill that empty hole in his life.

  • Would you be upset that she didn’t stop? Maybe
  • Would you be disappointed? Probably
  • Would you be crushed, shattered, and devastated? Doubtful

Why? Because that interaction, or any interaction with any woman, didn’t determine how you felt about your life.

You weren’t relying on that interaction to go well so you could feel like a real man, and so you weren’t torn to pieces when it didn’t. You lived your life fully, freely, and openly, and were able to experience everything you wanted, regardless of how women responded to you, not because of it. And because of that, it didn’t mean so much when things didn’t turn out how you wanted them to.

Now contrast this with how you live your life now and how that could leave you dependent on women to feel good. And how that could leave you angry and in pain when things don’t go your way…

Think about it.

Women don’t cause you pain. You cause you pain. You live an unrewarding and unfulfilling life, making other things in life responsible for how you feel. You depend on women to feel strong, worthy, valuable, and powerful, and then get left feeling empty and alone when they don’t want to be part of your life.

It’s not their fault. It’s yours.

Step 3. Understand the importance of ownership

Knowing that it’s all your fault is simultaneously the worst and best thing to know. The reason it’s the worst is that it puts everything back on your shoulders.

  • Every time a woman rejects you? It’s your fault.
  • All the pain you felt in the past? It’s your fault.
  • Every time you wake up feeling frustrated, alone and empty? It’s your fault.

When you create something, you have to take full responsibility for it. The ball is in your court.

But this is also the greatest blessing possible. When the balls in your court, you control the rules of the game.

  • If you’re responsible for her not being attracted to you, then you can change that.
  • If you’re responsible for all the pain in your past, you can eliminate all the pain in the future.

When you create something, you have the power of eliminating it for good.

Taking full ownership of a situation gives you the power to change the situation to whatever you want it to be.

If you still believe that the world is responsible for your life situation and how you feel about it, then the world around you is the only thing that can ever change your life situation or how you feel about it. You’re a leaf blowing in the wind. You’re a victim of your reality and forever will be.

It’s only once you take full responsibility for what’s happened and how you felt when it happened that you can EVER hope to eliminate it for good.

This is the importance of ownership. It puts full control of your life back in your hands and takes it out of those who have no interest in seeing you succeed.

Step 4. Take Control

Knowing what the problem is doesn’t change anything. Realising you’re on fire doesn’t stop you from being burned. Watching a car speed head first into yours doesn’t make the damage any less severe.

To stop blaming and resenting women, you need to shift the fundamental mechanism that was responsible for you blaming them in the first place.

How do you do this?

Well, I’m going to drift away from giving deep advice about transforming your core here. Why? Because whilst that’s all good and fun and that level of self-awareness is necessary to make HUGE shifts in your life, so it taking action.

So, instead of giving you deep advice, I’m going to give you 8 tools you can use right now to start making changes.

When you combine these with the other self-awareness exercises and tools on this blog, you’re going to see huge differences to your life.

1. Declutter your life

Get rid of anything you own that’s sole purpose is to change someone else’s opinion of you. Go through your wardrobe and get rid of everything you own simply because you thought someone else might like you more because you own it. Go through your cupboards and throw out everything you held on to because you thought it might one day impress someone.

2. Ruin the story

One of the ways you’ve been making other people responsible for your happiness is by telling them stories about yourself. You’ve been telling them you’re cool/interesting/fun/exciting by selectively including and withholding information about yourself.

As long as they believe those stories are true, you’re going to find it hard to break out of them.

Ruin the story by telling them the complete truth. No more half-truths. No more fractions. Just balls to the wall honesty.

3. Stop living your life based on someone else’s life plan

Stop living the life that someone else has prescribed for you. Stop following their rules. Stop ANY activity you’re currently participating in, just because other people have told you that you should be there.

If you’re just doing something because other people have told you it’s the right thing to do, then it’s never going to be intrinsically rewarding. It’s always going to be less than what you’re looking for.

4. When you wake up in the morning…

Instead of focussing on everything you’re going to have to do that you don’t want to do when you crawl out of bed, ask yourself ‘What is one thing I need to do today to feel fulfilled and satisfied with my day?’

5. When you get yourself into a sticky situation…

Instead of asking ‘Whose fault is this?’, ask ‘How did I contribute to this and what could I have done differently?’

6. When you find yourself with nothing to do…

Instead of just wasting your time away, filling in the blanks with mind-numbing distractions such as TV and surfing the internet, ask yourself ‘What could I do, right now, that would help me feel fulfilled and satisfied?’

7. When you find yourself angry, upset, or frustrated…

Instead of looking outside yourself for someone/something to blame, ask yourself ‘What did I do that contributed to this and how could I make sure it doesn’t happen again?’

8. And then, when all this is said and done…

Take action. Take action. Take action. Don’t sit on your arse. Nothing changes till you take action.

There’s no point in knowing that you’re responsible for your life situation if you don’t do anything to change it. There’s no point in knowing that you’re responsible for the pain and frustration you go through if you don’t do anything to eliminate it.

You will not become more satisfied and fulfilled by having all this information and sitting on your arse.

Nothing changes till you take action. Nothing.

Get up, do something, make a difference, and take control.

TL;DR

It’s all your fault.

It’s your fault that women ignored you, it’s your fault that women rejected you, it’s your fault that women laughed at you, and it’s your fault that you felt shit when they did.

And because it’s all your fault, you have the power to change it.

When the ball’s in your court, you set the rules.

You can become more attractive. You can become more interesting. And you can do it in a way that means you’re not dependent on nice smiles and flirty arm touches to feel good about yourself.

So there are no more excuses, no more reasons, no more defences for sitting on your arse and blaming the world around you.

229 thoughts on “All Women Are Bitches!”

  1. You Bloody b*&ch! How dare you treat a woman like that… Women deserve MORE! They deserve respect, admiration, appreciation! You sir – are a bitch…

    I think most guys (people in general) turn themselves into bitches because it gives blame to others and lets them off the hook, just once. Then they go and continue with this victim mentality, which is very addictive. There’s a small adrenaline rush which comes from being bailed out of a mess we created, which was learned in childhood when Mum said “Oh son, it’s OK. I’ll clean that up for you, JUST DON’T DO IT AGAIN!” Next time your response might be, “Oh, Peter did it” (smirk)

    However, it’s also a vicious cycle which leads to more bitchiness and a decreasing self worth.

    Sean Stephenson has some quirks, but he taught me a valuable lesson. If I’m feeling bad or helpless, I’ll let myself sit on my ass and sulk… for 15 minutes. After that time elapses, it’s time to FACE this fear and self-pity I’ve spent the last 15 minutes wallowing in.

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    • Yes I have given respect and admiration and faithfulness! What have I gotten in return unfaithfulness sex power trips and bullshit! Women are manipulative and controlling! I would be a rich man if it was not for women! Men need to get some balls and work out everyday and focus on being a car guy because my Challenger SRT8 gives me way more pleasure and a lot less headache then my wife!

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      • You sir, know nothing about some of us.
        You should blame your poor judgement when choosing a wife. I’m sure she didn’t turn into a completely new person the day after you married her, so you should have seen what her personality was like.

        It’s funny how guys only go after women considered hot, and not beautiful. I’m not one of those people who say the only important thing is personality, that is ridiculous. However, there are plenty of beautiful women who don’t behave ‘hot’, and therefore don’t get approached by guys very often. On top of that, we have to listen to comments such as yours.

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        • you are also judgemental.
          I for myself never felt confident enough to go to the “Vogue standard” of women. And over a years of pandemic, I sent about 2000 personalized message. To get only green card scammer. And I’m pretty sure I’m not ugly. Just on the bigger side.

          In real life, they have some fun with me, but they feel I’m too friendly? 5 times. They all try to come back after, as FWB. Worst 2 of them came back because friend was now useful. They got kid with a “real” man that takes care of shit.

          I personally stop dating. All I think is making bad for what they all did. So now, I go online, find a sugar baby or young superficial women. Buy bling that cost less than an escort. And do what I have to do, and stop the money relation ounce I have enough sex. It is cost effective, I don’t hurt potentially good women if they exist. Only hoar passing as women.

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      • Im sick of you assholes, you bitches. You females ARE NOT GODS GIFT! YOU FEMALES ARE INCAPABLE OF BLAME BEING ON YOU BITCHES! YOU FEMALES ARE BITCHES! YOU FEMALES ARE RACIST SHALLOW STUPID STUCK UP ARROGANT ASSHOLES AND BITCHES

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        • And you, sir, obviously believe you are God’s gift to the world – an angel devoid of sin or any problems – IT’S ALL WOMEN’S FAULT … EVERYTHING … I AS A MAN AM PERFECT, PERFECT IN ALL THAT I DO, SAY, THINK … IT’S DEFIINITELY ALL WOMEN’S FAULT BECAUSE I HAVE NO RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANYTHING THAT HAPPENS AROUND ME OR TO ME … IT’S DEFINITELY ALL WOMEN’S FAULT!!!

          It must be soooo comforting to you to live in your delusion.

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      • I can totally relate to your experience. It’s not all “black & white”. Yes it’s complicated. But the bottom line is that women are generally far more self-centered, fearful, craving pleasure and admiration and security. Looking for their daddy figure. Willing to put up with rudeness and abuse in exchange for good sex and/or money. I’m shorter than most guys, and though in my younger days I may have had ‘boyish good looks’ (as opposed to swarthy rugged manly good looks), nowadays I’m probably more appalling than appealing in appearance. I’ve had women laugh at me when I’d introduce myself. I’ve had women who I was dating tell me “I enjoy your company but You know I can’t be seen with you in public, right?”. The two women I married turned out to be totally disrespectful, emotionally-abusive, smug and self-centered. And the vibe I’ve gotten from 99% of women is that “You’re not tall enough or handsome enough or rich enough and because you’re white your dick is probably not big enough to satisfy my orifice, so piss-off”.
        So I’ve taught myself to live without women or sex or romance or relationships. Totally. I’ve taught myself the same kind of advice offered in this article – but not in order to make myself appealing to women, but to make myself whole and satisfied with life – life without the anxiety or worry about pleasing any of those smug, self-centered, whoring females anymore. Given the options, it’s the only sane way to be.

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    • I don’t agree with this black and white article. The world isn’t black and white. If we set ourselves full responsibility for attracting people.. be it a friend or lover that is like the office administrator taking full responsibility for the company on his shoulders… when really he has no control. It will lean to social anxiety. Bad advice possibly to a group of people with issues in that region of their lives.

      The truth:

      People are complicated creatures with likes and dislikes. If you are being yourself and find you don’t click with someone. … next!

      Some people will find it harder because they’re not what most people like… but they will find people who do like them. The best advice is to get out there meet new people.. recognise with whom you don’t click with.. move on and find those that you do.. and never ever change or blame yourself.

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      • Good job, ty for writing this. #bump

        [BEFORE READING THIS]
        [If you try making fun of this, insulting it or disagree with it, then stop. This is not your business, not your words, and nobody needs your worthless opinion about this. Im trying to help just like you in a different way, so if you dont like it, keep scrolling]

        Look guys… or ugly ass girls. If the world doesn’t want you, then wheres the point fighting it. If you wanna live in other peoples lies “your beautiful” or “youre powerful” etc. then stop it. It will never end if you keep trying like a retard, instead youll suffer even more.

        Im sorry for being emo, because for some people it may sound like but if you DO really wanna live and “take action” then follow these 3 rules:

        1. Never trust anyone
        2. Respect yourself and your actions
        3. Kill every IMPENETRABLE obstacle whos blocking your way of life (including family, friends or anyone else)

        The third option should only and only be used when someone tries to control your life. You either live like a bitch, or fight for who you are. Police is trash in this world, and so the world itself is. If you truly wanna be someone, you gotta decide between to be a trash, or to clean it. Youre your own police, you and only you can truly judge your actions against suffering.

        Thats not how you should live, its what may or may not clean up some shit in your life. And believe me, its worth dying for who you are than living just to live.

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        • You are correct. Don’t expect other people do be decent or kind or fair. Most people are lying cheating pieces of shit who are only out for themselves. If you don’t accept this, you will be a victim, complainer and weak loser in life. Take control of YOUR own life.

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    • Dude go suck a Penis. You are so vain as to be GAY (if male)! What a faggot. Nobody reads your incoherent babbling articles anyways.

      Please do the World a HUGE favor by grabbing a Firearm, loading it, taking off the safety, and firing into your brain ubtil you die. This will save the rest of us from your insufficient genes. Ha.

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    • This post is on-point as fuck, in succinct method to deal with emotions of life not being fair.
      “It’s not their fault. It’s yours.” Well, if this is biological excuses for cruelty and dehumanising (objectifying) men’s struggle in this life, try this same logic when women (actually men are raped more in the USA than women, due to imprisonment being unequal as hell but that’s still being ignored because prisoners are women’s enemy and doubly-objectified):
      “rape isn’t men’s fault, it’s yours”…as, the flipside of women being bitchy and disparaging to men, cruel – men are biologically-horny and aggressive and will take what they aren’t given fairly.
      See the logic that is rigged against men, now (not that I want to rape anyone, but lies of omission about the cause-and-effect chain are RIFE in society when discussing how bad things happen).

      Now WHERE we really draw the line and WHO and HOW we make the rules for, is lied-about, hence the myriad UNWRITTEN rules that exist. Who is it that you think they serve? You? Try having a discussion with women and writing them all down in a given situation… Watch closely for who gets most defensive-aggressive about not revealing them, and who to, demographic-wise… THAT is the power right there.

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      • Just so many overweight very pathetic women with tattoos all over their bodies these days which makes them look like real freaks altogether, and they really think they’re all that as well. What a real joke they’re, especially with all that makeup that they have on today which makes them look like real clowns that really belong in the circus.

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        • THIS. Look I have been married for 24 years. And I can say I feel bad for ANY guy in today’s society trying to find a serious woman. First off it’s hard to even tell if the average girl is straight or not, because SO many are fat with tats all over and questionable hair cuts. Second, it’s hard to even tell if some of them ARE actually a woman with all the makeup.
          So out of the 15% that are left that are actually attractive and look like a woman, 90% of them already have a dude. So at the end of the day, if I were single it just isn’t worth it. Especially chasing a woman over 40 who has a LOT of problems as well has lost her looks and usually her sexual drive.
          I would 100% hire a professional 2 or 3 times a week if I were single again. We both get what we want and go on our way.

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          • Then again, now that so many women are Gay And Bi nowadays which explains it as well. Feminism is much worse than Cancer that is caused by most of these very pathetic women to begin with, especially since most of these women are just real men haters today as well. And there will be times when many of us straight single men will get Cursed out for no reason at all when we will just try to start a conversation with a woman that we think would be very nice to meet, by just saying good morning or hello to a woman nowadays for many of us men has certainly become very dangerous unfortunately. And i know other friends that had women Curse them out as well for no reason which just doesn’t make any sense, why most of these very troubled women are like this these days unfortunately.

        • Scary truth : Now women can buy fake boobs , and photoshop their pictures with Snap Chat filters. So , nowadays, even a 3/10 can be a 9/10. Lmao . Oh, they also jump on, and get brainwashed by the whole : Beyonce “ Men are Inferior” bs .

          Guys : Listen up. The key is , right from the getgo : The attractive woman needs to be kept in line . Let her know , she can be replaced . Do not put her on a pedestal , as that’s weak. She is not better than you . She needs to know her role. She disrespects you , you disrespect her right back . She plays games with you , and treats you poorly? Show her that , you are the boss . Show her that you can walk away from her .

          Remember a biological fact : A man over 30-35 gets better looking, and retains his looks. A woman over 30 …. Well , we all know what nature does . I know ….. Truth hurts . Guys stop becoming obsessed with her . Stop giving away your identity and freedom to her . Why is this happening ?? Without her fake boobs , without her make up , and without her snap chat filtered photos … What do you see ? I mean really ? I’ve been with tons of women . I also know what terrible boring sex is like . Ladies : Advice : Don’t be bad in bed . Keep the guy happy . Men … Same goes with you … However : Today : You have become weak . It’s not a woman’s world. Media has propagated this pseudo life and made you “sheep. “ I know many of you will call me a misogynist . Or another fancy word . I lol at that. There was a time when men could be men and women were real women . Now : Roles have been reversed . When you have as much experience, with as many women as I have , some unattractive , some attractive, some with many different issues , you tend to see the reality . Most women respond to behavioural cues a and stimuli . Only the VERY confident woman will go for a good looking , built , confident fun guy . The ones with self esteem issues: You know : “Miss Snapchat / Instagram , filter my pictures to get attention to gain power “ types .

          Keep them in line . Have options . Then men : You will win .

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          • ** Most women respond to CERTAIN types of behavioural cues, and certain types of stimuli . ** Hahaha !! This is what happens when you drink overpriced scotch, check your stock portfolio, and type at the same time , while your phone is being blown up with angry women, you used to see , texting their “ crash courses on Feminism” . Lmao. ..

            Oh and while all this is happening , I had to pee . I have 1 kidney , you see , and it’s inverted . Sort of like today’s social roles . Ok . I’m out of here. On to my next conquest in life . Don’t get mad now . Ok . 🙂

        • Reply to “ Scary Truth “ : Well it appears you also hung out with Brittany from Fargo ND ?! Lol . Described her to a T. You’ve seen the snap chat pictures she sent you , looked amazing hey ? Then you met her and ……. Quite the different story eh?

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  2. Sorry man, but most of your last “give aways” aren’t really a help. It’s your fault, it’s your fault,…! Why are you don’t trying to give a real help and not an all-time repeating advertisment for your products? Maybe i am the only one but the quality of your blog isn’t the same as one year before. I respect your attitude to earn great money,you got yours i got mine.

    Remember one thing: you only show the way to great and pure wisdom. You can not offer wisdom. Wisdom is a gift not a product you can buy.

    My question finally is, why you writing down these blogposts?

    Have a nice day

    Oz

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    • Hey mate,

      I’m sorry you feel like that. Tell me, what is it you feel is missing from your life now? What kind of advice do you need?

      I can only give you what you want when you tell me what that is.

      I think the 8 tips at the end of this post happen to be great advice for anyone who’s struggling to find the answers they need so I’m curious to hear what you think is missing.

      I look forward to hearing from you.

      Leigh

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  3. I agree with the other poster here. Its all your fault? Seriously man? This mind of advice is really shitty as if men are the only ones responsible in interactions.

    Women are just as responsoble for making it work. In my view its 50-50. Yea you can focus on what you can control such as getting fit and being internally validated but the reality is some women are btchrs and its not my fault.

    I find it really immature to assume fault for this and very alike what mainstream pua says. By the way, its also very puaish to say you are responsible for creating attraction. Wtf? Even of you are your best man not every woman will like you, so you cant control how others perceive you.

    And this step by step plan comes across as if its a cosmo article. Im sorry to say its not authentic in my view with how this site came about

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    • I didn’t say you could or would be able to attract any woman. I didn’t say you’d be able to pick up any woman by becoming super attractive. I didn’t go on some PUA rant about how you need to learn more attract techniques.

      Yes, there are 1000 different factors that come into play when a woman’s not attracted to you but focussing on the ones that are in her control is a complete waste of time. You will never grow and never become more of the Man you want to be if you just stand around saying ‘Well, she’s just a bitch.’ The only way to grow and take hue steps forward is to own your life, the situations you create, take responsibility, and do what you need to do to make it work.

      If you approach a woman and she’s cold and bitchy to you, then who’s fault is it?

      Well, it could be hers for being a cold bitch. But why are you approaching a woman that’s a cold bitch? What’s wrong with you? Surely she didn’t just transform from a smiling, loving, goddess to a bitch in a second. It had to be written across her face before you walked up to her. Why are you approaching her?

      It’s not your fault that she’s a bitch but she wouldn’t have been a bitch to you if you hadn’t walked up to her in the first place.

      And, she’s only a ‘bitch’ because of the way you’re choosing to look at the situation. If she’s being bitchy, she’s obviously not having a good day. But here you are, not noticing that she’s not in a good mood, approaching her, and then demanding that she’s nice to you. What would change if instead of focussing on how she’s reacting to you if she was in a bad mood, you actually tried to understand her from her perspective? What would change about the situation?

      You could focus on the fact that she’s a bitch and then just blame her, or you cold man up, learn from your mistake, and then grow and become more like the Man you want to be than you were before the situation.

      If I approach a woman and she rejects me then in my eye’s, it’s my fault for approaching a woman that wasn’t ready / wasn’t my type / wasn’t in the mood. Why? Because that’s the only way to grow. That’s the only way to become the Man I want to be.

      If you blame the woman, then there’s nothing you can learn from the situation and no way to grow from it. If you take full responsibility, then it becomes an incredible place to take steps towards the life you want.

      Taking responsibility for your life is the single MOST important step you will ever take. EVER. If you can’t Man up, focus on what you contribute to a situation, and then take the action you need to take to change it, you will never create the life you want. You will always be a victim standing on the side lines say:

      “But it’s her fault too. I’m not to blame.”

      I don’t find it immature to accept full responsibility. In fact, I think it’s the complete opposite. In my opinion, the core difference between a boy and a Man is that a boy is dependent on the outside world — he blames the outside world and expects the outside world to be different in order for him to feel good — whereas a Man takes full responsibility and does what he needs to do to create the life he wants.

      Which one sounds more mature to you?
      1. “Well, it’s not my fault. She was just a bitch!”
      2. “I obviously approached her when she wasn’t in a good mood. I’ll definitely pay more attention to what she’s really going through next time.”

      I don’t know about you but the answer is pretty obvious to me.

      And the recommendations? There is only so many times I can give you exercises to look deeper into your core and see you internal limitations before it becomes pointless. At some point in time, you have to take action. Sitting around and thinking about yourself and your life isn’t going to get you anywhere. You need practical steps you can take when you experience situations that you don’t like. These are those steps.

      I challenge you to take those 8 step and implement them into your life. If you don’t expereince a significant difference in a week, I’ll be incredibly surprised.

      Anyway, I hope that’s cleared everything up for you. Please let me know your thoughts on the questions there. I’m interested to hear whether I’ve explained myself clearly to you.

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      • Hello I would like to add my opinion to the subject of bitchy women, first of all I agree with a lot that’s been said about taking responsibility and ownership and looking at the situation for what it is, but at the same time in order to meet women u have to approach them right? U can’t always read there body language, women can give mix signals all the time, u can be interesting, cool ,confident, whatever and she can still have her bitch shield up, I think too much is expected of the man, he has to be the one pursuing the woman, with the possibility of her not being interested, but it’s never the other way around, what about qualifying her based on her attitude towards u, you can’t read her mind, women give bad first impressions to, it is not always the man’s fault, give him some credit for at least trying , when u are meeting a stranger for the first time, be it man or woman, you are dealing with a different personality, u have no idea who u are trying to meet.

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      • Just remember ITS A MANS WORLD and as soon as you women hit your 50’s we men of all ages go for the women in their 20’s to 40’s! Thats why you see all these older women all together eating out and hanging out together! If a young guy pays attention to them its only because they want their money and a blow job!!!!!!

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      • This is why I’ll never be in any sort or relationship with anyone I just can’t kiss anyone’s ass. They all stink and no one would kiss mine.

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      • The Problem is you can’t just look at yourself. Part of owning that total responsibility is realizing that some people are damaged. When you do everything you can, and totally own your part in an interaction, and it’s just not adding up, then you have to walk away. You also have to look at what you’re wanting. If you place beauty before everything else, as a man, then you may get a really crazy person, and it won’t be worth it. of course you have to be attracted, but other things are important to. you could be as close to perfect as possible with a woman, but if the woman has narcissistic personality disorder then she is generally not looking for a good man. She is looking for someone to use and exploit.

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    • Oh, and because it’s clear that the core message isn’t clear, I’ve gone through and made a few updates.

      I’ve updated the first step to explain what I’m talking about more and updated the final step to make it clear why those recommendations are in there.

      Does that clear things up?

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      • I agree with everything so far Leigh but how far does this go? In every case and interaction is it my fault? Let’s say if a girl is two-faced,has racists influences and a whole mess of stuff. Is that my fault?

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      • Okay Leigh you are right in a lot of your comments and myself I love women and really love my wife and for the most part she has been up front and honest with me but I have been angry with her lately because she was in a chat room and met what she thought was a younger guy and it turned out to be a scammer that took her for a lot of money. I was hurt that she was looking for a younger guy and did not understand why as I have always been there for her and am in great shape and work out everyday and I am very easy going and am not a control freak! In her words she was bored! Life goes on so time will tell!

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  4. You know, after all this time. I think I’m finally ready to bring it. I use to look at the challenges I needed to make this change as scary, full of fear.

    Now it’s a different fear, it’s not like the old kind which threatened me to back off from what I wanted, but instead it’s like encouraging me to go for it.

    I know it sounds wierd, but it feels awesome to me anyway.

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  5. @Logun I understand what you are saying. I completely agree that it’s our responsibility to see what we make of the situation and not blame someone else.

    However, this statement is a bit off: ” it’s my fault for approaching a woman that wasn’t ready / wasn’t my type / wasn’t in the mood… he blames the outside world and expects the outside world to be different in order for him to feel good” I don’t agree with.

    See I am with you on not expecting the outside world to make us happy or validated. This applies to women. But, just are there are men out there who are assholes by nature, and have nothing to do with me whatsoever, there are women who are bitches. Denying this is not denying responsibility for your own self validation. Assuming responsibility for how others act is just insane and not an opportunity for growth as I have no say in the matter.

    I do accept responsibility for what I can control. But, how other people will react to me I just can’t, and even though I could care less if I approach a woman and she is bitchy to me, I won’t blame myself for her behavior as you suggested.

    It takes two people to have an interaction, not just one. So the burden does not lie only on me for that matter. I can be the happiest dude on the planet and self validated, but it won’t change the fact that some people will react negatively and that is my point. It’s not my fault.

    “Manning up” to me means setting firm boundaries as to what I will and won’t tolerate. It doesn’t mean assuming the burden of something I can’t control just to make me feel good and “create the life I want”. Is it my fault for approaching someone who I thought was open and friendly and turned out to be mean to others including myself? NO. Does it help to assume the burden of her actions as MY responsibility for something I didn’t do to grow? NO.

    This kind of thinking leads you to blame yourself for how others act all the time, when it really has nothing to do with you. That’s some food for thought. This is not about blaming others, but neither is it about blaming myself only. It’s not a matter of either or, on both extremes, when there are two human beings involved in an interaction.

    By the way, maybe this is not the space to write about this, but in the beginning when you started out I thought your message was refreshing, but what has driven me away from the site is the sales letter feel and marketing in the newsletter and articles. I know you have to sell your stuff, but really your products don’t need much marketing if what you offer is valuable. You ain’t a PUA don’t market like they do.

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    • I’ve been thinking about this for a while now, just working out what’s really missing here and I think I’ve found it.

      If you can honestly say that you approached her with integrity, honesty, and authenticity, and not only that, you lived your life in that way that meant your honesty, authenticity, and integrity was confident, complete, and caring, and she was STILL a bitch to you, then you could absolve yourself of any responsibility for her being a bitch.

      But even then, you could still ask yourself – why am I approaching this woman? Why didn’t I notice this earlier? And learn from that.

      BUT…

      If you approached her with anything less than 100% authenticity and you’d been living your life in a way that meant your authenticity was powerful, confident, and caring, then there is ALWAYS something you can take responsibility for.

      Because unless you’ve been living your life in that way, and being the powerful, confident, and real when you approached her, you will never know if there’s something more you could have done. She might be a beautiful, loving, and strong woman but the fact that you were being needy (at any level) pushed her over the edge. You don’t know because your lack of strength, integrity, and power was still there.

      My girlfriend is the most loving and most beautiful woman I’ve ever met, yet if someone approaches her and is fake, needy, or dependent, she’ll rip them apart. This includes me.

      I know that if she’s being that way with me, it’s because there’s something about the way I’m living my life that. When I’m confident, strong, and caring, then this isn’t an issue.

      So, let me ask you this:

      The last time you approached a woman and she was bitchy to you, were you being real, confident, and authentic and had the way you’d been living your life allowed that realness and authenticity to be strong, confident, and compassionate? Or was there a something you could take responsibility for and learned from?

      P.S. Thank you for talking this out with me. I’m sure there a more guys reading this who have the same thoughts but just didn’t say it. By talking it out, it’s helped me learn more and understand the point I was really trying to make.

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      • CONFIDENCE! CONFIDENCE! CONFIDENCE! The key is confidence! As my mother use to say I could walk in to a bar and pick up a women or two in an hour but my brother could not pick up his feet! Sure there is always one that will put you off but that always made me try harder! Women are like a hot car you have to know what makes them run and how to drive them fast without hitting a tree!

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  6. It’s interesting how when something happens that is good, we generally ‘blame’ ourselves, when something bad happens, we look outside of ourselves to find the cause.
    Regarding doing things for ourselves versus others, I realized that I have to take care of just myself, and then everyone else will come on line, or not. If I’m trying to take care of others and myself, to be strong for them, then there is no chance I will be strong myself. I will inherently follow what the others want, and eventually lose myself.
    I thought I was going down the right path, things were getting better, only to find out that I had left my path, and had started going down her path, and got rightly dropped on my head yesterday.
    It’s a lonely trip, the path where it’s all my fault, the good and the bad, because there no one else to interact with, no one to give you approval, or validation…because you don’t need it. No one is going to blame someone else with you, or tell you that the other person is wrong…because you’re not looking for it.
    I got off the track, without knowing it, living for others, starting to impress, starting to look for validation, and then actually believing it when I got it, or didn’t.
    The mail came at a perfect time, a good wake up call, an inventory check. I have to get back on the path, my path, and be strong, just me.

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    • That’s wicked to hear mate.

      Realising that you’re responsible is the hardest and most beautiful thing you can ever truly realise. It’s great to hear we’ve been able to help you find that place.

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    • It definitely is a lonely path. Like you said no one will come to rescue you, or shower you with unconditional approval and validation, nor is it their responsibility.

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  7. The problem is that PUA can generate attraction in all or many women, if she is not attracted to you, then you are not following the steps or method, you are bad! Vomiting.

    Logun, if you tell these guys it was his fault to approach a woman, by the look on her face, then closing them such an important opportunity. Maybe it is projected serious, proud and cold and when you come and say “Hi!” She only opens her heart and I will welcome with a warm and radiant smile. If I do not approach her, not that the other side, inside of her. Only if you get to know you’ll know, no other way, if you draw conclusions from their face, these imagined possibilities that God will know if it passed. That’s not real.

    But I can take responsibility, if I can assume that I can improve.

    Friend, you can not say that a conversation has to be 50-50, because that’s not true, they always give you signs. I can attest I using what LoGun said and I had a thousand things to talk seriously, could never stop talking, they send signals to feed me the conversation always and I’m not talking about what they tell me, speak to nonverbal level. You can be the color of her blouse, can be your name, you can be your smile can be your energy … assuming it’s your fault because you’re not focused enough on her to see the signals they send.

    I take my responsibility. Sometimes fault, if, with this girl I run out of things to say, it was my fault for not knowing how to lead the conversation. Yeah, maybe I was not very funny when I met her, does not generate enough to share my own fun with her. I’m not attractive enough to please, is an indicator that I can develop my potential to be more attractive and push to be the greatest man I can be. But I know that has nothing to do with her being attractive has to do with the way I see life, I face the life I live life and she is just an indicator that has not yet I’m living the lifestyle I want, I can still make my world and the most incredible way I want to be and not sit.

    We do not play with women, we are not going the way PUA, just try to be every day the greatest men that women can be and can not help but be naturally attracted to us because exudamos confidence, charisma and charm for the which they are drawn. Assume responsibility, but also know when external factors played or she was not your type, if not, look like you can reach your potential more attractive.

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    • Conversations don’t have to be 50-50 I agree. But both the man and woman have to put some effort into the relationship or interaction to move forward.

      Even though the man’s conditioned role is to lead, she still has to put some effort in the interaction or relationship to make it work.

      That is where it truly is 50-50. Why would you try to overcompensate for someone who doesn’t bother to make it work? (not saying you are btw)

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      • Definitely not saying you should compensate for them not wanting to put in their share towards making things work. You’re right.

        But what I am saying is that there’s still a role you play in that.

        Maybe they’re not putting in their share because you’re being needy and dependent. Maybe they’re not putting in their share because they don’t feel loved and appreciated.

        And even if they are a just not interested, it’s your fault for talking to them. There’s always something more you can take responsibility for and use to become more of the Man you want to be.

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  8. Hey,these advices are too good to stay only with us..I’m shure everyone who read it would like to say personally a simple ‘thanks,i really mean it’ .And it would be good if we teach people to think this way,not only saying what we read,but with the way we act with others and in our everyday life.And you do it for free man! And we can use it not only with relationships..Finally,your way of thinking gave and will give hope to people.Not a lot,but enought to make a difference !

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      • No you’re not! YOURE DOING THE EXACT.. why am I even still trying.. TO MAKE AN ACTUAL DIFFERENCE by trying to GET YOU ASSHOLE BITCHES (YOU FEMALES ARE ALL BITCHES!) YOU FEMALES ARE SHALLOW ARGUMENTIVE IM RIGHT BECAUSE IM A FEMALE” BITCHES! Females are serious FUCKED UP MENTALLY AND PERSONALITY WISE CREATURES!!! AND ITS PISSING US REAL men off!! YOU FEMALES ARE NOT WOMEN ANYMORE YOURE ALL A BUNCH OF MOUTHY ALL ABOUT FEMALES BITCHES, YOURE ALL MEAN STUCK UP ARROGANT STUPID FEMINIST BITCHES!

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  9. ..Even if there are different thoughts..
    We aren’t supposed to agree with all you said here,but you has shown us another perspective,what trully matters is to start thinking with OUR brains,WE decide if we wanna apply all this,just some parts,or nothing in our lifes.
    everybody here needs to realise this.

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    • GREAT point my friend. I would be very worried if everyone agreed with me because then it would mean that I wasn’t stressing the importance of independent thinking hard enough and you guys were becoming sheep. That’s the last thing I want.

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  10. My two cents:
    I noticed one thing really important while aproaching and trying to meet women all of this time. Your feelings are countagious.
    This explains a lot the “bitchy behaviour”. Sometimes we are feeling bad, weird, and after aproach some random woman these feelings are transmited to her, who feels weird and act bicthy to get rid of you.
    Maybe this has nothing to do with a guy being weird or something like that, but has to do with he feeling weird AT THE MOMENT OF THE APROACH.
    Oh, and if you smile and naturally don’t care and keep talking to her friends like SHE is nuts, you’ll simply discard her bitchy behaviour.

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    • Another thing very, very important: it’s our responsability, as men, to find the places where there are women we like.
      Here in my city there are many, many clubs: and in each one of them, I can find different kind of women.
      Some clubs have terrible unpolite women… Another ones have cute and friendly girls who often like the same things I do.
      The point is to keep looking for nice women and do a good effort to improve our life because, all generalization is a lie and we can dump with a nice girl anywhere.

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      • I agree with Madtequila, the male is responsible for Leading the interaction. Borrowing from the great Owen Tyler Cook (some of you may have your views which I respect), “the person leading the interaction is REACTING THE LEAST to the other, and EVERY interaction has a Leader”.

        A man walking into an interaction with a bitchy attitude gives off a bitchy vibe which leads to the woman acting bitchy. Of course some women will play mother to this man and try and help him out of his state, but this is rare and rarely leads to a response of sexual attraction (not mother-son attraction).

        A man walking into an interaction confidently because of his positive mental state and strong belief systems gives off a confident vibe and women will respond in a confident way, though slightly submissive. Of course some women happen to be bitchy and resent his confidence, but would a REALLY confident man walk off with his tail between his legs? NO!!! He’d stick around, laugh at her a little and maybe encourage her to crack a smile. Or he’d brush her off and talk to a new girl or his friends, unaffected and entertained.

        You’ve helped me see more light dude.

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  11. One thing you seem to have in common with most of these puas is that you are in good physical condition and you are definitely not ugly,so ppl especially women show more interest and respect to you because of it .
    This Is why it’s so hard for me to accept this “my fault ” jazz. I can’t help the way I look. Though I am not ugly , I am definitely not handsome, so excuse me if this seems like an “easy for YOU to say”kind of reply.
    You guys keep implying that looks don’t play an important and vital part in how we are pegged in life, and if u guys were more on the average side them I’d be inclined to begin to believe some of what you say, but, since in spite of the fact that you all claim that things were different for you in the past and the before and after photos, its hard to not be skeptical and to take you at face value.
    One has to play devil’s advocate and say that you are charismatic enough to be be trying to pull a fast one in spite of the sincere vibe that you give , and in an increasingly difficult world both socially and economically , one has to constantly look over one’s shoulder and remain continuously vigilant.

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    • Sure mate. You do have to be vigilant. I could be trying to pull a fast one on you. This could all be a scam. I could give you the contact details of all the people I grew up with and they could tell you the same story but that could be a scam as well. Without you actually being there, there’s absolutely no way I can prove what happened in the past so it might all be a scam.

      So as there’s no way to prove it either way, I have a suggestion:

      Let go of the question “Is this true or false?” and start asking the questions “How can this new piece of information help me?”

      If you decided to take responsibility for everything in your life, how would that change things for you? If you focused on what you contributed, what you could have done differently, and then taken that action next time, how would your life be different now?

      For example: Think back to your last interaction with a beautiful woman that didn’t go the way you wanted. You have two options here:

      1. You can blame her for being a bitch, walk away feeling shit, stew in your own misery for a while, and then go home alone
      2. Focus on everything you contributed to the situation, find a solution, implement that solution, and keep moving forward with your life

      Which one sounds like it’s going to put you in a more powerful position in life? Which one sounds like it’s going to make you happier, freer, and more confident?

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    • And on the looks thing, you’re right. I am in good shape. But you know what? I didn’t wake up like this one day. I worked at it.

      I made the decision that I was going to be fit and strong and in good shape and then I got my arse to the gym and got into shape. I didn’t sit around whinging about how it wasn’t fair that I’m not in shape and I didn’t sit around complaining how I don’t have enough energy to get to the gym. I took responsibility, got off my arse, and did something about it.

      Now, I’m not saying that you’re whinging and complaining. Far from it. I’m just telling you how I dealt with the situation and that started by first of all, taking responsibility for the situation.

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  12. LoGun, i know it, your muscular body is genetics. Yes, Pantalones, for LoGun it was easy.

    But look, if you really are genetically cursed like me, you have to accept that you will have to work a little harder than others, as I do. I’m not physically attractive and if you want, I can show all the photos and evidence of the world and yet I succeed.

    I can only say: This is possible, this is real.

    And once again, the physical does not matter if you’re the kind of man who creates his own fun and shares it with her. Sure! There are women who only value the physical, you will meet them, but never you’ll know if you come meet them. I have approached women who have told me things like “You’re so ugly, I do not want to talk to you” and I wallowed in pain? No. However, if you really want those women who value physical, with effort you can get to have the physical you want, with operations and whatever, but only if you want it, by that I mean there’s always something you can do to create your world the way you want and develop your potential attractive, but not sit.

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  13. The responsibility is yours and yours alone, its how you view the world.

    Today men idolise women, and its what we call the Goddess complex. There is no need to idolise women but one must idolise oneself. Using a simple tactic of ‘i choose’ or ‘my choice’ can change the dynamics of women over men to men over women. You seize control eg., ‘I choose to love you’, ‘I choose to talk to you’, ‘I choose to allow you to love me’… It takes away the power women have over men and installs the power in its rightful place. Even rejection will cease to have an affect as you will clearly state when she says ‘no’, ‘I choose to accept no’.

    Its your choice to say ‘fuck it im in control’.

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  14. Looks definitely matter, don’t be fooled and let anyone downplay this factor. For short term mate choice, meaning one night stands and hookups, there are scientific studies that show women go primarily for looks.

    Reference: http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-6494.2009.00570.x/full

    http://aleknovy.wordpress.com/2012/03/20/short-term-attraction-vs-long-term-attraction/

    For long term mates, women consider other factors such as social status, fame, personality, etc.

    Of course there are exceptions, but in general terms, and in my experience, what these studies conclude is true.

    Now, I like that Logun places a strong emphasis on empowering men by teaching us to assume complete responsibility for our lives. In that way, every act and decision becomes conscious and we are not led astray by our impulsive reactions.

    However, I personally like to keep my power coupled with realism. I don’t see any fault in asking “is this true or false?”. This kind of question is not to be replaced or let go of as Logun suggested.

    Case in point: there are issues and events out there which are a part of reality that aren’t as simple as replacing “is this true?” for “how can this information help me?” You can’t do this for issues like poverty, cultural customs and dating without getting the big picture.

    My final interpretation of Logun’s point is to first and foremost be firmly rooted in reality by accepting what’s out there: there are women who are bitches, there are tons of assholes, etc. and only then, to proceed to assume complete responsibility not for them or how they reacted, but to act according to my values. If she is bitchy or plays games, fuck it, I have no respect or time for that and I move on, simple as that. No trying to plow or get anything from her.

    So I accept reality as a first step, and then proceed to consciously make decisions and act according to my values.

    @Jammer “A man walking into an interaction with a bitchy attitude gives off a bitchy vibe which leads to the woman acting bitchy.”

    Hey man, you can be all positive and self-actualized and women will still be bitchy. I have a problem with this “vibe” thing as if its some mysterious force that will make women up to you. If you are happy and internally validated, more women may open up to you, or not. So your “vibe” is not the cause for women to open up to you, it only helps and is correlated with it.

    The most important point to realize is that after living the life you want, being self-validated, and having inner peace, you might not get more attention from women than you do now. That is not the point. This type of inner work ain’t supposed to make you a pussy magnet, because if that is your goal, inherently you will always be seeking stuff outside yourself. Do this shit for you and not for women.

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    • My point was the confident, Real Man was unaffected by her bitchiness. Her vibe is bad, his is still good. There’s no need to change hers if HE doesn’t want to.

      The reason his vibe is still good is because women (and especially this new woman) are not the centre of his universe, in fact this woman has no value to him. Case in point, my girlfriend is bitchy, I take more heed than if a girl I started up a conversation with is.

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    • From Scot McKay, he explain this a little better than I did.

      “As soon as we allow others to manipulate our values and our resolve, the same people who sought to change our course actually respect us LESS, don’t they?

      After all, seeking approval almost always breeds contempt. You know that already.

      But staying the course, even when not apparently popular, can often build respect–especially when a greater measure of excellence or a higher moral standard was at play than most other people were content to “settle” for.”

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    • @stealh: yes, looks matters. But not ALL that we usually think it does.
      Of course I would be stupid to think that a really ugly man has the same chances as a bradpit-looking guy.
      But we must have something in mind: the looks you have, helps you only in the first impression you gets from her.
      If a really handsome man aproach a woman and doesn’t know what to talk, express his feelings, build THAT connection… Soon she’ll get bored and try to get rid of him.
      Whereas, if you have an ugly guy, she can YES act bitchy and resist at one first moment because of your looks. But if you take the time to convey to her your personality, showing who you are, your desires and making her feel THAT feeling, man, this guy is gonna have way more chances with her!
      The point is: your looks doesn’t matter when your goal is to achieve hapiness in your life.
      What does it have to do with this subject? If you simply go there to meet her, and are absolutly confident about who you are and who you want to be in your life, your looks won’t matter FOR YOU and this is the most important thing.

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  15. Jammer, I really like you’re take on this.

    Before, I assumed that the woman of my dreams would magically forget whatever problems she was having when I’d approach her and reply happily and confidently.

    Now I realise that’s not leading, that’s just relying on a extremely positive outcome. An “Alpha Male” would just stand up for what he believes in and share his vibe, and even if the girl went to the point of shouting in his face, telling him to fuck off, or laughed at him or whatever, he would have 2 choices depending on how he felt:

    1. Stay, and find out what’s making her act this way and sharing his gift of happiness to see if he could make her feel better.

    2. Leave, knowing that she just wasn’t the kind of girl he wanted in his life right now, no insult or attitude, just a quick decision and a “thank you” and be on his way.

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  16. There will always be dynamics at play when we are involved in the dating game. The unfortunate issue we have in this point in time is ‘women think they are entitled’. The mindset of women is nothing new, they crave superiority over men. Along with this they have been told everything they do is right [whether right or wrong] thus elivating their belief they are better than men. The media has fed us with ‘males are dumb, women are smart’ for so long that men just believe this shit.

    The break through for a male is neither a dating chant, or any other alpha male bullshit. It lies solely at the core of a man to state ‘my fucking choice’. To invest time in a woman is worthless, investing time in yourself is the greatest investment. How does this mindset attract women, simple a woman does not know what the fuck she wants, she needs to be told, be led and be shown what she NEEDS. I would soonner be called an arrogant jerk and walk away with pride intact than pander to some woman who quite frankly doesnt meet my benchmark.

    You guys need to give yourself a break from chasing and pussy pandering. The more you focus on you the less you focus on them.

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    • Hey Mark,

      Thanks for your comment. There seems to be a lot of anger directed externally throughout your post. It sounds like there’s a lot of pain that you’re experiencing and directing outwards at women, at the media, etc… Have you experienced a lot of pain in your past?

      The reason I ask is that there are a lot of statements in your comment that you could use as very effective entry points to help you grow and really move beyond them if you’re interested.

      If you are, start a thread up on the forum with this comment and let me know where it is. We can help you see how you can really empower yourself through this situation.

      Leigh

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  17. Leigh, thank you for this great article. I have put what you described above into practice and it works! I’ve had several relationships but they always ended up badly or abruptly and I was blaming the women for this. Until I started looking within and noticed that I needed to change, I became too vulnerable in the relationships. Women sense this and they drop you like a bag of potatoes.

    But when you have confidence and you live freely, not dependant on women, they will start moving towards you, you become like a magnet. I am not the coolest guy out there but man, this stuff really works!

    Thanks for this great post and keep on writing, it is an inspiration.

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  18. I think the problem some people here expressed is actually that they might’ve made the single biggest ‘mistake’ of humanity: miscommunication. People are very hung up on the term ‘fault’ and ‘blame’. I think it’s not an inherently bad thing, replace with responsibility. Isn’t what happens inside our heads our responsibilty? Doesn’t 90% of OUR world happen INSIDE our heads? Don’t we DECIDE how we react?
    I think this is what Leigh was getting at.

    I was a ‘choleric’ for about 4 years if not more. I got upset about nuisances. Why? Because I chose to. My remedy was martial arts, something that resonates throughout a lot of the articles here is a statement from martial art philosophy I once read:”There are two lines of power. External and internal. The internal one is endless.”
    Also, don’t ever underestimate your mind. Or how much in control of yourself you actually might be.

    Thanks for reminding me of this and entertaining me, you are an incredibly entertaining writer!

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    • Great to see you’ve been able to take responsibility and move forward with your life. It’s a very beautiful thing and a great gift to the world.

      It’s also great to hear that you enjoyed the article so much.

      L.

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  19. Well, just read your article. now I feel like I want to commit suicide – you know, because it’s all my fault right??
    BS my friend. it’s a two way street. the last three girls that I’ve been talking to have done a 360 on me. I was real, positive, sensitive and funny with them. not to mention giving. maybe they want an A*****e? some women just don’t know how to handle a good guy. plus, all these women came from abusive backgrounds and then they met wonderful me… i’m not tooting my own horn, but I’m a good guy and in no way do i or did I treat women horribly. so, is it still my fault – yes, because I wasted time with the wrong women. unfortunately, this gives me the complex of i’m not worthy. so, I’m giving up on the dating scene cause I like other men I know are sick of the head games and other bs from women. A TRUE WOMEN WOULD KNOW THE GOOD GUY SHE FOUND AND WILL DO WHAT IT TAKES ON HER END TO HELP MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP WORK – COMMUNICATION, RESPECT ETC.. all the others, are simply BITCHES.. thanks for reading.

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    • Thanks for taking the time to share mate. It sounds like you’re going through a tough time.

      Just because you spent time with women who didn’t appreciate you for who you are, it doesn’t make you unworthy. It might make you silly or prone to poor choices but that doesn’t mean you’re unworthy of a good woman.

      If you want to quit the dating scene, then that’s your choice and I’m not going to try and stop you, but if you actually want to find a ‘true woman’ and have an incredible relationship with her, then I can definitely help you with that.

      Let me know.

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  20. I… am quite shocked. This article is just… So, it’s your fault women claim rape/abuse, steal your money? i’m not even going to begin to list it all the problem a woman comes with.

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  21. Hahaha nice try being a white knight and defending these miserable c’nts. All women just want someone who can literally support them throughout their whole life and spoil them. As soon as your bank account depletes…coincidently so do their feeling for you. Hmm.

    The problem now aside from the fact that these whores are enjoying being how they are, is the men who put them on pedestals and give them all their power. Seriously look at online dating, as a man you won’t even get checked out, a woman will have hundreds of messages HUNDREDS so she gets her already inflated bitchy attitude up even more and if you only meet 99/100 things she demands it’s YOUR Fault.

    Last bitch that thought she could talk down to me and disrespect me like she has to friends of mine I knocked her on her ass. Now she is friendly and more importantly respectful and careful when she talks to me. Now I see why women get beat so much look at it like this

    An immature kid gets hit by his parents for doing something wrong or foolish. Kid learns their lesson and knows its wrong. A 25 year old woman pulls similar immature shit and doesn’t even get a stern talking to…let alone hit, in fact she gets apologized to and even spoiled some more to get her affection and love bought back. So, like a shark on blood they do it as much as they can with no fear of consequence.

    Listen men if you want respect and not to be ignored and laughed at, make a statement and discipline them like I child, you will see the truth then.

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    • Hey mate,

      It sounds like you have a lot of resentment and anger towards women. I cant even imagine what it must be like to carry that around with you day to day.

      Are you interested in trying to find a way to let go of it?

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      • I am not sure I understand the question. “They’re” the ones with the problem.

        Let go of what? “resentment”? I am simply aware of how they are and I will not be walked all over by them. So I do what I can to keep them in check from doing so.

        I am just simply disagreeing with your brown nosing the opposite sex. Like they have absolutely nothing to do with why thigs don’t work and it’s always the mans fault(female mentality) is nonsense.
        If this is your way of garnering female approval and attention. You have some growing up to do.

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        • Just wanted to clarify something in the your response, I didn’t say anywhere in that article that it’s always the Man’s fault. I said it’s always your fault.

          If you’re frustrated, angry, feel used, trodden on or abused, it’s your fault for not doing something about it.

          There is always something you can do to change the situation and if you’re not doing it, then it’s your fault.

          This is the same advice I’d give to a woman who was asking me about relationship problems as well. If something isn’t right, then it’s your fault for not doing anything about it.

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          • Yeah see there you go again. You don’t think when I had my downturns in a relationship I made an effort to fix “contribute” to the solution? I guess it was my fault she decided to just not be receptive to any communication or attempts at making our relationship work.

            Again by your logic, if I make women feel abused trotted on and bad, then it is not my fault but theirs. I don’t believe you would give the same advice to a woman, because a woman doesn’t have to approach, women are the selectors, they are the ones that do the laughing at etc…so that point you made is irrelevant. You said previously that you dont believe in 50/50, yet you claim that the woman you would advise things on would be the same as a man in which I just explained how that is false.

          • I never said it was your fault that she didn’t want to ‘contribute’ to the relationship but there is always something you could have done about the situation. You could have seen the signs earlier and gotten out of there, you could have chosen a different woman, you could have just walked away.

            You can never control how other people act but you can control what you contribute to any situation.

            And no, it’s not women’s fault if you make them feel abused, trotted on, and bad. It’s your fault and their fault. You both contirbute to the situation. But, if at any point the women aren’t happy in that relationship (some women actually get a kick out of feeling abused), then it’s their fault for not leaving.

            What it seems as though I haven’t communicated very clearly is that I believe in the absolute responsibility of the individual. It’s your life and if you don’t feel the way you want to feel, then it’s your fault for not doing anything about it.

            Does that make sense?

            If it doesn’t, check out http://www.attractioninstitute.org/programs/empowermen

            Yes, it’s a information page about a product but don’t buy anything. In fact, please don’t buy anything. I don’t want you to think I’m sending you there to close a sale or anything like that. The reason why it’s important that you focus solely on what you contribute in any situation is on that page and it’ll make plenty of sense.

            Once again, please don’t buy anything. Just read the page.

    • This is a bullshit post, even when you don’t do anything wrong why should the guy suffer because of her shitty choices in the past ? women are mentally wired to be bitches not to mention stupid, its known they think and act on emotions instead of logic, they pick things based on color and how it looks rather than quality and colors, women are just plain stupid. God created women for men, and women got the leftovers in the creation and low IQ. They aren’t as smart as they think they are, they are emotional retards of society that piss people off. I don’t feel bad for any woman that suffers emotionally because deep down they deserve it for the rotten curses of existence that they are. Im talking about todays generation of inbred shitfaced women.

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      • ***rather than quality and performance**** error correction.

        Women are fucking irresponsible too, they hate to be told they are wrong and would rather have someone else namely a guy take the blame for their shitty feelings and faults. Women are a curse to humanity and don’t deserve any respect or equality, feminists are annoying too, they never shut up and are a damn plague to existence. Women get too many privileges like in divorce for example, why should the cunt get a single penny or any of the possessions for what shes never worked for ? women live off of handouts and charity they are not as strong as they think they are, they need support. Women will never EVER be like women, women are a bunch of emotionally retarded charity cases.

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  22. I made my point at my last sentence. Don’t be afraid to discipline them instead of give in so they DON’T do all those things men hate.

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  23. Yeah yeah I have received “help” from “experts” like you and it goes know where. What works for them won’t usually for someone else. Bottom line is I am trying to
    Let everyone know that they need to be handled with aggression and control. Take their feminism out of the equation. Slap around torque an elbow and even abuse them every now and again so YOU are the one walking all over them not them. When I was mr nice guy it but me in the rear…so indirectly I followed your advice and did something about it…I took responsibility for curbing my “niceness” and now have become an “asshol3” to another degree and it feels a lot better. Though I can still admit I get angry every now and again when I have to deal with those situations.

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    • Great to hear you’ve taken responsibility for your situation and done something about it. It’s an empowering step and one that will help you immensely.

      The only thing is that you don’t have to handle situations with aggression. Control? Yes. Aggression? No.

      If you choose the right woman – one who is independent, confident, and caring – the aggression is exactly what you don’t need.

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    • Like I said. They need to be alone. Simply do not talk to them. Only give decent people the time of day. Additionally, always keep in mind that most people are loosers (regardless of social or monetary status). It is usually a case of the pot calling the kettle black.

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  24. Dude , i was reading this with great interest since i had personal experiences in this field . What you said has a good message but in my opinion isnt very realistic . Like i said , from my own experience all the women i ve met in my life were cold hearted materialistic bitches attracted only by fake ass posers and assholes who were seeking only sex . Ive done anything to have good relationships , even having close friends from the other gender , but all i got was a knife in my back . What you said in the begining that it has to be my fault , ive analyzed that too you know and i had nothing wrong in me . I dont want to look overly optimistic but ive been a very good student and i was not ugly at all . I helped each one of my girlfriends to get through the toughest moments of their lives , and all i got was being left for a fake gangster Alfa male or whatever . And all this happened from the ‘good’ girls as i never approached bitches but as far as i see all of em are fucking whores (or at least all the women ive met ) i dont want to sound like a loser because i aint i have achieved great things in my life , but in this case it is not on my hand

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    • I don’t know you and I’m basing all my assumptions off what you’ve written here but it sounds like you have no idea how to turn a woman on and then when they’re not attracted to you, you justify it as being their fault for being materialistic and cold hearted.

      I’ve never met you but from what you’ve written here, that would be my observation.

      Something to think about.

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      • @ Leigh: I don’t know you and I’m basing all my assumptions off what you’ve written here but you seem like a self-righteous narcissistic person who has had the world on a platter, and has no idea of what the words “bad luck” mean and then when, say, some middle-aged worker loses their job and ends up homeless, you blame them for not being young enough.

        I’ve never met you but from what you’ve written here, that would be my observation.

        Something to think about.

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        • Interesting you say that mate because nothing could be further from the truth. I’ve had nothing handed to me.

          I’m the child of a single mother of 4. We were homeless till I was 3 and lived in government accommodation till I was 6.

          I was always the kid who had no money – for lunches, for excursions, for anything. My mum worked her arse off to feed and support us but it was always tough.

          I was so terrified of social interaction that at 19, I was eating my lunch in toilet cubicles so I didn’t have to talk to people.

          I left school at 16 and I’ve earned everything I’ve got. I never whinged about ‘bad luck’ or ‘unfair circumstances’. I got up off my arse and made my own luck.

          A middle aged person doesn’t end up homeless because they lose their job. They end up homeless because they haven’t planned for the fact they could lose their job.

          In any situation, there are elements within your control and elements outside your control. If you choose to focus on what’s outside your control then you will always be a victim. If you choose to focus on what’s inside your control, you will eventually get where you want to be.

          Your choice.

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      • Hmph, I had you pegged as yet another one of those faux Internet expert know-it-alls. There is a lot of them out there.

        Maybe you’re one of those who just happen to have what it takes – good for you then. I don’t. If I had what it takes, I would have probably made it big by now. I’m actually fairly affable in real life, probably because I have to be. My posts, well, to be honest, were mostly trolling to get a rise out of you. I assumed you were one of those hoity-toity types who have it all but that you’ve explained, I apologise for my hostility. No hard feelings.

        Me, given that my plans in the past of all these types have failed, I try to be content with what little I do have, rather than try to grasp for more. Maybe I like being on my own, on some level! Perfectly legitimate lifestyle choice, you know. Perhaps I’m a bit too sensitive to get back with anyone again, after the bad experiences I’ve had. That’s my cross to bear, not yours. How would I go about just being single for the rest of my life, but in a way that won’t get other people saying that I’m gay or whispering unseemly rumours about me? (I tend to worry what people think, and I live in a smallish town).

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        • Hey mate, no hard feelings. You said what you felt and were willing to listen and that’s far more than most.

          As for your situation, it’s more complicated to answer than a quick: Here’s three steps…

          If you want to get a real solution then I’d be more than happy to chat with you and help out. You’ve already shown that you’re receptive to new information so maybe I could help you find something that would work for you.

          You’ve got my email, just flick me a line and we’ll see what we can do.

          If not, all the best mate.

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  25. This is an awesome post! Thank you so much. I’ve kind of learned to resent women which is stupid. Anymore other things that could help me overcome it and love them again?

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  26. In response to Maria yes my choice of women have something to do with my troubles! As far as my wife goes we are working it out! She is house sitting for 2 days to get some “space” as she says but things have gotten better between us. I think the key to a relationship is communication. My first wife was a good women but we were just young to be married and she left me by cheating on me with another man. We are still friends to this day! Life can be hard sometimes and my wife’s comment to me was do you trust me going away to house sit? I told her if we did not have trust we should not be married!

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  27. Dear sir,

    I’m sorry, but you’re wrong- completely wrong. Women are inherently, biologically, genetically, psychologically manipulative, cruel, heartless, opportunistic, and despicable.

    How do I know this? Because I’ve always gotten a healthy dose of female attention— but have fallen in love very selectively. The common thread between those I was merely attracted to and those with whom I fell in love, was always my compromising of myself, mistakenly believing in chivalry, and mistakenly believing that women were hallowed and beautiful. I always had interested girls, but I when I was truly in love, I bent over completely, brainwashed by the illusion of “the fairer sex,” etc.

    Interesting, is it not, that upon realizing my own worth and really coming to love myself for the first time in my life, my eyes were somehow opened to women’s true nature, almost simultaneously?

    Gentleman, they’re trouble. Far more trouble than they’re worth. You may see a nice-looking one in a bar or on the street and admire her legs and chest and ass and all that— but I promise you, your fantasy will always be a million times better than the reality. Keep clear of them, and I promise you, you’ll be happier.

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    • Hey mate, thanks for your honest response.

      There’s one thing in your response that stands out to me that I’d like to understand more:

      – How much of a role do you think the fact that you completely bent over backwards for the women in your life and continually compromised yourself played in women taking advantage of you?

      – If you weren’t always so eager to change yourself to please women, do you think it would have even been possible for women to use you?

      The reason I ask is that it appears from where I’m sitting that you created the environment where women were able to use you by telling them, through your actions and I’m guessing your words as well, that this was acceptable behaviour.

      Do you think your actions could have contributed to the situation?

      If you’re not sure, consider this: If you weren’t so willing to bend over backwards and just do whatever women wanted, would women have been able to use you?

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      • Blame the victim.

        Those women are responsible for their own indefensible conduct.

        Stealing is still wrong even is the person you stole from didn’t have a security system.

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        • I completely agree that every person is responsible for their own conduct. I’m simply asking Colin what he contributed to the situation and if the situation would have been different if he’d contributed something else.

          This isn’t about finding blame, it’s about finding a solution.

          If you only focus on what others contributed to the situation, you will continue to find yourself in that situation over and over again because other people aren’t going to change the way they live their life for you.

          If you focus on what you contributed to the situation, you can change that and find a long term solution because you are in complete control of how you live your life.

          It’s not about blame, it’s about finding a solution.

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      • Yep. It is the “marks” fault for being a “mark.”

        The only solution is for those women to never get pregnant, to be forced to take care of themselves 100%, and to be completely ignored forever by all decent men.

        So you wouldn’t blame a rapist for raping these women would you? You would ask the women what they did to get them into that situation?

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        • What I’m saying is that in any situation in life, there are elements that are outside your control and elements that are inside your control.

          If you focus on things that are outside your control, you’ll continually face the same problems over and over again because the world is never going to change to suit your agenda.

          If you focus on the things that are inside your control, you’ll be able to find a real and long term solution to your problems because your actions are completely under your control.

          This isn’t about blame or trying to find who’s responsible. All parties have contributed to the outcome in some way. This is about finding a solution for the people who’re going through the problem.

          It seems like it’s more important for you to find someone to blame for your problems rather than a solution to your problem and that’s fine. When you’re ready to find a solution, I highly recommend you take a look at what you contributed, how that influenced the outcome, and how you could create a different outcome by contributing something different.

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      • I don’t think I set myself up for anything, honestly. My bending over backwards wasn’t even that dramatic, really; just manifested in little acts of kindness and attentiveness where I knew other guys would be more complacent.

        When someone does that for me, I appreciate and value it- my immediate inclination isn’t to take advantage, and THAT’S the difference between me and the average girl-about-town.

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    • Hear hear, fellow comrade. All the good women are either:

      1: Taken by the time they leave high school,
      2: Lesbian, or
      3: Afflicted with some form of horrible disease that ends up killing them and leaving all around them heartbroken.

      Strangely, all the women say much the same about the men.

      Me, I’ve decided a new tactic – make myself my own love object. Because I know that I am the only person I can truly trust, appreciate and love.

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    • It seems like you’re really committed to blaming women for your problems.

      If that seems like at any point that it’s not going to help you create the life you want and you want to change it, please don’t hesitate to reach out.

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  28. Dear Leigh,

    I just got on this site quite by accident. I Googled “how to be vulnerable.” And started following other links on your site. Your original post and this thread are extraordinary. You’re talking radical responsibility here. You’re talking about the fact that you can only attract on the outside what you are on the inside. I’d only say to you maybe change it’s your fault to it’s your responsibility, but I think perhaps you’re doing it to wallop some people on the head who need to be woken up, so I understand why you’ve written it the way you’ve written it. I’m female, and you’ve helped me tremendously. I am so grateful I found this site… but then when you go looking with open eyes, heart and mind, you find what you need.

    I realized I am not letting my wonderful boyfriend see my vulnerabilities for fear he will leave. The post I read on your site before I arrived on this one absolutely set me straight. Love me… all of me. Dark side and all. Own my strength. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I can now go to him and be me.

    Now about this post… guys like John Smith, Mark, Don, Collin,etc: I am saddened to hear you’re having a hard time in life and with women. Your posts show you are in a lot of pain. I wish I could have a cup of tea or a drink with each of you and just chat and help you smile again. All women are not bitches. I never deliberately treated a man badly and if someone approached me and I wasn’t interested I was always kind about saying no thanks. I think very well of men. Right now I have the kindest, sweetest man in my life I could ever ask for, and I appreciate him every day, and make sure he knows it. And for those of you who think looks are everything… he’s over 50, lost a lot of his hair, he has a bit of a belly, he rents a room in a house rather than own a house (lost it to the ex in the divorce many years ago) so he can afford to pay for his son to go to university… and I love him with all my heart. Just told him on our last date he’s the handsomest man in town, as a matter of fact. He actually blushed!! Me, I’m younger and what I’ve heard men in bars refer to as a babe. He is so kind, generous, considerate, affectionate with me, I couldn’t help but fall in love with him. So please don’t believe it’s about your looks. It’s more about how you treat her. We don’t not do “treat ’em mean to keep ’em keen” with each other. That’s BS. A decent girl won’t put up with it nor dish it out.

    I know Leigh your ideas are hard for some to get, but you are right when you take responsibility you become master of the game. Thanks for your great work. Clearly you lived through a lot. I can see where your compassion comes from.

    your new fan, Mary S

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    • Thanks for your comment Mary. I’m so glad you’ve been able to find the answer you’re looking for here.

      And thanks for your kind words as well.

      You’re right, the word ‘fault’ is there to smack some of these guys upside the head but maybe ‘responsibility’ might be more effective.

      Good luck with your journey.

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    • If your boyfriend lost his job or gained weight you’d probably leave him. Men don’t do these sorts of things; it’s statistical fact. 80% of divorces are initiated by women.

      Women ARE bitches, no matter what you SAY.

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  29. I’ve always been able to attract women but now I lose my erection because all women are whores. I’m the one always paying for them. I ask them out, I plan the dates, I provide the entertainment, I pay for the dates, I pay for the gas, etc. Then if I get sex then I’m expected to keep paying with commitment or continued interest or else THEY FEEL USED!
    NOPE, It’s not my fault that all women are bitches. You’re ignoring reality.

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  30. these comments infuriate me. I am not like this as a woman and far from ugly however i don’t present myself in an artificial manner as others do and make no intent to harm. by the way I am far from ugly. Now i know why am single. what harmful people you all are maybe you guys deserve a ugly inside woman who packs on makeup and has a profile of a pig.

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  31. This is to all women who are this post thinking it’s good to be a “Bitch”.

    When they sow the wind, they shall reap the whirlwind; The stalk of grain that forms no ear can yield no flour, Even if it could, strangers would swallow it.

    Think about it. Enough said.

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  32. Everything you said in the article was true,and yet at the same time it’s not the whole truth. Women respect a man that can call them on their shit. Look at Sean Connery. Women love him in real life. He knows how to demand respect. He’s just a famous example. I’m more interested in the ordinary person. So when a woman flakes, we gotta call her out on it, but do so in a way that doesn’t sound like you’re a whiner victim, etc. Therein lies the rub. How to demand respect and criticize and accuse properly. Yes, accuse. Some of the teachers of meeting women- I’m thinking of a famous one in particular-initials DD, tell that you should accuse- playfully- accuse women of things. And if she’s beautiful and from a western nation, more likely than not it’s true on some level, and she laughs because she knows. She knows because it’s a game to her. Love is a game to women- that’s what Doc Love says. Never mind a man’s heart is going up and down. No, sir I agree with your post- bottom line factor, we have to take ownership and personal responsibility. Nobody will change our lives for us or improve it, least of all the government lol. But in part of doing that requires knowing how to call women on their bs, etc, but PROPERLY. I still struggle in this area, but sometimes I do it right, and it really works and that’s how I know it’s true! Of course you can only call a woman on bs if it’s truly bs- that is to the extent you actually have a connection. A woman who you only spoke to for 30 seconds owes you nothing. Also, we are responsible for choosing a woman with a good attitude and character- and screening them, with our methods of screening. Every single person on the planet probably needs a method of screening, some method, for weeding out the attractive users. Anyway if you have an otherwise quality girl that you’ve actually spent some time with, and she gives you shit, it’s your manly responsibility to deal with it, but that doesn’t involve going into a cave and figuring out how you need to better your life and find meaning, because it doesn’t please the goddess. The goddess. The goddamn goddess. I’m all for goddesses, but not bitch goddesses. Some women are so beautiful physically that people- grown men- have fantasies about them shitting on them. Fuck that shit. It’s still shit. that it came from a beautiful woman doesn’t make it any different. Women can be true goddesses, nurturers, lovers, passionate ones, and I’ve had a few, but having tits and a vagina doesn’t make you a goddess per se. I’m not conservative but that lady on the radio wrote two books- one for male self-improvement and one for female self-improvement, and she got so much praise from both men and women for her book on male self-improvement, but women attacked or criticized her for suggesting that women could make mistakes. If we think women are so weak they can’t take criticism we both lie and create in them a damsell in distress complex, that both men and women suffer from. That’s probably why german women are my favorite. They’re much tougher it seems, grown up. I am not disagreeing with your article. We’ve all been there. At least I have. But like everything in relationships, there’s always a fine line. There’s always a fine line. Patience, self-control and discipline, that’s what I’m trying to cultivate, and I want to be an outstanding man, business wise and professionally, and have meaning beyond myself, though I’m not religious or spiritual. I for one think it’s healthy just for men to get away from women and talk about it with themselves, the struggles they have- like what’s going on here. Just the exchange of energy. What are human relations but exchanges of energy. Thanks

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  33. Come to think about it many of the women of today are a complete waste of space since i notice that they have a very serious Attitude Problem which they really must have a lot of Mental Problems as well unfortunately especially they act with us men these days. I had one woman actually Cursed at me for No Reason at all when all i wanted to do was to start a Normal Conversation with her so i can get to know her better. Well this woman really has a lot of Mental Issues i suppose or her boyfriend treated her so Rotten at one time and Decided to take her Problems out on me. Just my Luck to meet a real Low Life Loser like her in the first place which really Explains why there are so many of us Good men that are still Single now since the women of today are really to Blame which there is No Reason at all to Blame ourselves either. Now the ones that have their Careers today are the Absolute Worse of them all since they really think that they’re all that but are a Complete Failure anyway. These type of women will Only want the Best of all and will Never settle for Less which really tells the whole story. It is all about Money for these women today which they will just want a Guy to spend Money on them all the time since these type of women will just take Advantage of these Guys which i really feel bad for them since they’re being taken for a ride. Quite a Change in the women of today compared to the Good old fashioned women of years ago when Most of the women back then were the Best of all compared to these Losers today.

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  34. im very simple.i love good people and hate bad people regardless of sex.some men are bad and some women are bad.im a 42 year old bachelor and people have said im sweet cute pleasant adorible easy going fun and as pure a guy as there is in the world.i have all the time in the world for a good women and no time or sympathy for bad women.ill kick a bad women to the curb in a heartbeat-not literally of course but just figuritively-no matter what she looks like.i got hurt by too many so called angels who said they desired my love but desired my wallet instead.im now because of my hurt able to detect a bad or good women as soon as i meet her.and most women i met in my life were bad.so im just waiting for the right one who wouldnt dare hurt me and respects me and loves me for me and ill give her my heart and soul.until then ill never talk to a bad women ever again.

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  35. Well most of the women of the Past had class, very good manors, a very good personality too. Meeting women in those days definitely would’ve never been any trouble at all since the men in those early days had it so simple just like our family members did. Unfortunately a very different story today since Most women now are rotten bitches. This is why Most of us good single men are MGTOW right now.

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  36. This is mostly a pile of horse shit. Notice at the end how the program costs $$$

    No, it’s largely not your fault that women don’t find you attractive.

    No, it’s not your fault. This is a lie.

    The only truth here is that you should not look to women, or other people in general, to validate your life or to bring joy to your life.

    But to say it’s automatically someone’s *fault* that others don’t find them attractive, or that someone did something hurtful to them, is ridiculous.

    And yes, most women — to one degree or another — really are bitches.

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    • Thank you for having something real to say & not worrying about sounding
      like a misogynist! Which is a bitch word anyway! Men of power & influence
      have given women WAY too much power,money,influence,confidence,
      freedom & control!! Powerful men have given women these days all these things & made it possible for women to ultimately control today’s men & recesses!! They have modern men by the balls not to mention there tongue
      as well & men’s spirit in a jar,ball’s on a leash & cash in there purse!! You are called a misogynist if you so much as stand up for yourself as a male in this world! Men & boys are held to much higher standards than women! Most
      women do & say things on the daily that would get a man into a mental hospital & on proscription sex drive killing drugs!!

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  37. I’m so sick and tired of this fucking goddamn feminism bullshit and these females not taking fucking responsibility and accountability for pissing and frustrating men off! I’m so sick and tired of females being able to blame man for females being complete bitches and assholes. I’m so sick and fucking tired of this this is exactly why females are bitches every last one of these fucking goddamn articles is a bitch writing for bitches. And then doing exactly what females do which is blame the man and say he’s the reason you’re the reason, when it’s you females who are not good people at all you bitches only talk about where on had all the same I have no idea why am still fucking waste of my energy because it’s exhausted trying to explain to a female and females in general as a gender when it’s just impossible females are the most impossible fucking bitches on this planet. And it’s sad because those men need women and there just are no women anymore you females are feminist you females are assholes you females are jerks you females are stuck up empowered entitled assholes these days. I miss the days of the females being in kitchens being good women because that’s what may need females are nothing but assholes these days. End of discussion it’s a fact and it’s up to females, which is an impossible feat for them to do, change back to women and stop being bitches and running their mouth and being entitled and also blaming man when it’s you fucked up any gender females who are the fucking problem. You females are all bitches and all of you do nothing but talk and say the same shit we’re not all the same . When you all are because you all do nothing but ignore and sexually frustratefrustrate, and piss off truly really rare great man. Because you females have everything you want but you bitches only pic every single thing horribly and wrong and you don’t listen when a man is trying to tell you stupid ass females that you need to fucking stop you ignore someone because you think they’re not good enough because of their height with your facial hair was their skin color was there a fucking goddamn money or whatever. You females a shallow an asshole. You females of the reason why men are crazy And angry because you females just don’t know how to make decisions nor do you all know how to be easy or nice to a really really great guy just because on the outside he doesn’t look like something that you think is your type and that you females problem you have a type when you female should start listening to someone who just tries especially when he tries to show you his different instead of like you females, only talking about all of us are not the same but then you females do nothing to show it. You females are making really really great men so alone especially you attractive slim slender petite White, or Asian, or let Tina, or outside of black, it’s so sad that is 2017 and interracial dating is completely impossible made by you females for certain men because you emails are such racist and buy used and shallow assholes and just bitches

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  38. ..you people, you horrible completely STUCK UP, feminist racist (you other races) impossible bitches.. you people are all just assholes.. females ARE ALL ASSHOLES.

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  39. You females ARE ALL bitches. …fuck you females. For YOU ALL BEING ASSHOLES AND BITCHES AND RACIST AND FUCK YOU .. smfh fuck you all :”””””( smfh

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  40. BS, It’s simple women are bitches, they don’t think for themselves, all their friends opinions and pop culture is what forms there decisions. If you are an honest catch the friends will be jealous and they will sabotage your relationship. If you are a pop icon your the only truly desired man, until your 15 minutes are up, then if your a real catch, you will be part of the first statement. Women only want what’s popular among their peers.

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  41. Some self projecting girls like to claim men are disgusting pigs but the truth is they are. honestly most men do not like to tell the truth to spare the feelings of the false innocent victim female I on the other hand dgaf so no white knighting this way it shall not be. now we hence forth to the point.in reality females are the pigs that created pigs from their offspring passed down to them by generations of mistakes they’ve made. after running into a bunch of bs about males being pigs it’s time to put the ho bitch back in her place! Here are some true and real examples of females being pigs. Some do not take baths/shower for weeks even months without washing YUCK just because your a girl doesn’t mean you don’t have BO make your body smell good and your bf/husband will stop banging prostitutes. most are bloated like pigs self explanatory. I’ve seen so called grown women do some more foul things than I have ever seen a man do which btw says a lot because I’ve met some very sick bastards in my days but nothing compared to Eating your booger’s yes I have seen women actually doing this wtf is wrong with you bitches? mentally and physically abusing your offspring that grow up to be sickos like yourselves. clean your vag for the love of god let it smell like something other than a dead fish rotting in the sun on a summers eve pun intended when you have pee , blood and mucus all coming out of 1 hole it’s bound to stank down there which by the way Ive seen woman wipe under her sweaty arm pits with toilet paper then wipe their vag with it afterwards that’s just GROSS I instantly wanted to vomit. men don’t self terminat their children women do and in record numbers. ye foul things have purposely stuck used Maxie pads with discharge and period blood on them to the back of toilets so that everyone else could have the displeasure of seeing and smelling your rotting flesh EW girl EWW. take off the make-up and guess what you still look like a frogs rear end turned inside out. before you try to talk bad about a man check yourself for ALL YOUR FLAWS because believe me your not perfect you have them and More !

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  42. brother and sister….i just wanna ask when you were born,what did you have..and when when you will gone what will you do take…stop this hatred…and being affected by it….you all should feel this men who is just heartbroken…it’s obvious he will post this….eone (men or women) get betrayed by things….it’s on individual power how he handle his mind on given situation…… stop blaming each other try to understand each other….and make a decision…If you want to be together or separate…their are times when women want attention so do the men….but both should learn to be faithful with each other…as a men I proudly say this…stop hating women… because they are mother,sister and wife…stop hating men they are father, brother and husband….. respect… each other… however…. unfaithfulness is unforgivable…stop dating the men or women…who is unfaithful…..that’s all….

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  43. Well it is real fact that feminism is much worse than cancer nowadays since these type of very pathetic low life disgusting women have caused it.

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  44. Feminist low life garbage women are everywhere nowadays, and they really think they’re all that too. What a real joke they have become today, especially the ones that are real men haters to begin with. They certainly have no manners at all, and their personality sucks altogether. Very troubled women now with a very bad attitude problem as well. Whatever happened to the real good old fashioned women in the past that were Real Ladies, and the very complete opposite of today? Get a real life you losers.

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  45. You can become attractive, you can become interesting.

    And you can do it in a way that means you’re not dependent on nice smiles and flirty arm touches to feel good about yourself.

    That moment you decide to hit the gym, find hobbies, just so you do all of these things without being dependent on nice smiles and flirty arm touches, but your goal, still, is to get women and nice smiles and flirty arm touches.

    Because you can actually get them so that you feel horrible about yourself, and not good. And there’s a way to get all of these things in a different way, so that your goal is still the same, but not the same.

    Touché, Einstein!

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    • I don’t quite understand what you’re trying to say here, but I get the feeling that you think you’ve disproven that I’ve written with some logic train by proving that you’re only getting better to get women. If that’s the case, it would appear as though I didn’t explain myself very well in the article and you should read this: http://lifeoperatingsystem.com/what-is-lifeos/the-lifeos-framework/

      It explains the concept of finding what you’re looking for in a different place better than I have obviously done here.

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  46. Also, It’s none’s fault, it’s evolution and natural selection. Biologic reproduction. There are many factors at play and it’s NEVER your fault.

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  47. Now, you see that’s not it, that’s not it at all…the success of a man always is, it is he that is the shop owner and the woman is the customer…it’s always been men that have to have the best shop front when it comes to attracting women…look no further than the classics, Jane Austen and her heroines were obsessed with two things….money, good looking men…and making fun of anything less than that, especially ministers of the church…nothing has changed in 2019, appealing physiognomy will always be the best start a man gets, true, we can’t control our genes from our parents, but Tough! Women will say… and opens all kind of doors for him or not…you see we are moulded from infancy to what we are today…you abuse a child, why is society so shocked he hasn’t turned into a good man?! Is that still mans fault?!…I don’t believe so….is it a mans fault, who is clean, well pressed and dressed, exercises, but has receding hair, and his features are a 4, 5 tops out of 10, and is told where to go because he invited a woman out for coffee and cake?! ….get back to the real world , mr, and you’ll find that this is not all mans fault, this is everybody’s fault, from governments, education system, self entitled over rated women, fathers who think the grass is greener all combined with 2019 extremely high expectations…so you’ve a lot to learn.

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  48. Never blame a whole gender for a bad person you came across,

    This article does not have any information or gives food for thought, but you are just spreading Hate.

    Dear Men, try to understand women and learn to treat her well.

    The Problem of Men are they treat a woman who is an emotional being with Rationality.

    Now I ask you Dear Men What Rationality you have that you are treating an emotional being with Rationality???????

    Dont try to reform the women.

    Let the women be women and be a Man and Just Love them.

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  49. Most women unfortunately really suck these days since they really do have a very severe mental problem to begin with.

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  50. Feminism has destroyed many of us good single men today unfortunately since most of these women are just real men haters and gay to begin with. And you can never compare the women today to the women of years ago that were certainly real ladies back then since they had a great personality and very good manners as well compared to these very awful women now.

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  51. The point of this article is to be so cool with yourself and with the things that you can control, so you dont care of the outcome of the interaction with women. If you really achieve this mentality then you will have hot girls sleeping with you. I dont really know who it works but maybe is something about your energy.

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  52. Most women nowadays unfortunately are very mentally disturbed since Bi Polar in women is very common today more than ever. It has become so very impossible for many of us men really looking for love today, especially when it use to be very easy in the past when most women were very old fashioned and so much more normal than today. And many women back then had real manners, something that they don’t have now. Feminism has certainly destroyed their brain cells today altogether since they just like blaming men for everything that goes wrong, and a great deal of these women are really gay anyway since they’re just men haters as well. This is the real reason why that we have this problem today since feminism exist now, and it wasn’t like this many years ago which made it very easy for our family members when they found love with one another. Women were real different in the past compared to the women of today which the great majority of these women now will just grow very old all alone with their cats sitting in their rocking chairs, which they will certainly deserve that since they really do treat many of us men so very horrible today to begin with.

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    • There are so many gross generalisations and assumptions and so much misinformation in your comment that it’s impossible to even begin to have an intelligent discussion with you. You’ve built yourself this tiny little echo chamber where you can hear your completely illogical thoughts bounce around and reinforce your misguided views which you seem really miserable inside. If you ever want to end your pain and find an actual solution, please reach out. But, just be aware that it will invovle challenging these limiting beliefs you’ve created.

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  53. So it’s all men’s fault, spoken like a true bitch. It’s the fault of the evil people who run current society. They “empowered” women and now we’re here. Women have been given powers they didn’t earn or deserve, they use it like dictators because women don’t know the conceot of restraint. It’s a concept boys are taught early, they learn that just because you can beat up someone smaller than you doesn’t mean you should do it because power comes with responsibility. Girls are taught that they are oppressed by men and use any power in that fight. Now some evil men empowered these women and they are completely loose. At the end everyone suffers because nobody is satisfied but it’s more the fault of women for not seeing this. As individual men, it’s impossible to fight alone against a system that is geared against them. Just turn on your TV and it’s endless male bashing. they’re either violent and dangerous or dumb as fuck.

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  54. I’m feeling the love and hate in the room my good brothers, and I’m trying to view it from everybody’s perspective. Even though we can’t see the age of those who have left comments, would it be safe to assume there are different ages from young to mature?
    That being said, it also shows how many men have become frustrated (not angry) at what seems to be part opinion, part factual written piece with words that could, are and have been taken as harmful – “its your fault” may have been an unwise decision when perhaps “its your choice” may have been deemed more beneficial.

    Men are absolutely sensitive beings as proven throughout the comments, and this not to be taken the wrong way by the author of the article, but have you considered that the disapproval and contempt of some women by men, may have been a direct correlation of ones childhood or negative impacts that were a direct result of a females behavior? The impacts of that throughout an adults life can be heartbreaking to watch, experience and even harder to heal from, so elaborating on its a your fault type of mindset is negative self talk which is proven to be damaging and is only perpetuating the wrong type of message.

    In summary the authors heart is in the right place and majority of the article spits some real talk about real struggles, and if you just take the main points he makes without reading the rest, its solid advice. I must say though that the authors comments on being brutally honest about yourself with a “balls to the wall” mentality is incredibly refreshing to hear because its so rare.

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  55. I do not understand the misogyny in some of the comments. If a woman rejects me that does not make her a female dog. She is perfectly entitled to do so; it is not as if she were under any obligation to be my girlfriend, she doesn’t owe me anything. If some women are unfaithful, so are a lot of men. Besides women seem to get condemned both for NOT showing sexual attention to some men, and for showing it to others, for showing it to none or to many, while the same behaviour in men has only recently begun to be as condemned. This is double standards.

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    • Alexander – Misogyny comes from Misandry, the real double standard is the misandry is lied-about so much that most people do not even recognise what the word means! The sexual behaviour double standards are based in hard biology. Not equal, different and life revolves around sexuality, or life ceases to exist – face it.
      Sorry if your brainwashing doesn’t live up to reality, but that’s not the fault of the angry people on here sick to death of the results of the brainwashing, is it?
      Men can be ‘sluts’ and not be damaged, whilst women being ‘sluts’ damages them as to how stable a family they can raise given chronic dissatisfaction is part of the female psyche. What any sane society absolutely does NOT do is exacerbate the worst of the female psyche, but that’s what we’ve done. Or contraception technology and certain political philosophies ignorant of science have done… and won’t admit to doing, either (gaslighting everyone, in effect). Men’s sexuality is simple as fuck: we want women to want to fuck US, but not our competitors. We want them to be sluts for US, but not others – which means that they’re not sluts at all just sexual. Or we want them to be sluts but not invest in them, just a one-night thing as we don’t care. Women get condemned BY OTHER WOMEN for cheapening the market value of pussy. Whilst being privileged based solely on owning one, which logically doesn’t add-up any more (it used to in the past). That again is a double-standard against men on behalf of women who mostly are refusing to raise high-quality children on every level due to not respecting themselves as future mothers when they’re younger. Not allowing themselves to remain uncorrupt in the sense of being able to bond via oxytocin. Whilst men apparently don’t have the same issues. I forget the reference for the studies I read, but do your own research, this was from 2003 I think. So yeah, double standards, so what? You had something to offer the debate? How’s about that same woman who isn’t obligated can fuck off when it comes to intervening on the street to help her when under attack? Oh but that doesn’t happen – she still gets the privilege of male strangers being happy to help and not even for pussy in reward. It’s deeper than that as an instinct. By core definition men are not as evil as they are portrayed to be and women are far more dangerous.

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  56. Just saying good morning or hello to a woman that many of us single men would like to meet which unfortunately has become very dangerous for many of us men now, and the great majority of the single women today aren’t like the past at all. And there are times when women will even Curse at us for no reason at all since these are a lot of women today that really don’t like us men either. Well this certainly makes it very difficult for many of us men trying to meet a woman for us today since being single and alone all the time isn’t fun at all for many of us, except for the ones that don’t mind being single and alone. The fear of growing old all alone for me would be horrible, and at least when you have a love life which it certainly can make you very healthy being loved. I can’t imagine not being married at all which i really was hoping to meet the right good woman to spend the rest of my life with, but it still hasn’t happened yet for me. Most women unfortunately today are real bitches and very stuck up nowadays adding to the problem, and that does make our chances for many of us men not good at all trying to find love today. Feminism has really damaged most of these women now which certainly has very much to do with it as well. And for the men out there that were very blessed and lucky to find love which it sure was very meant to be for them since they really have so very much to be thankful for.

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  57. Feminism has certainly caused this very big mess today unfortunately. Really miss the old days since most women weren’t like this at all back then, and real ladies too. What in the world happened to these loser women today?

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  58. Today, women are the garbage of our society unfortunately. Gee Wiz, wonder why so many of us men are still single today.

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  59. Yes, it’s all my fault, and the ball is in my court. Once I realised that I don’t have what women want (power & lots of money mostly), I simply started ignoring them, like they don’t exist, and I find that as a result, life has become a lot less stressful and I have more time for the things I like to do.

    To sum up, women can go to hell.

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  60. Lol this is silly.
    Heres the fact. Men and women. Some people are honest, loyal, principle based. Some are cunts. It seems simple if you ask me.

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  61. This article reeks of sheet!!!
    Women are opportunistic vultures that will feast on men’s dead carcass
    You are fucking clueless…age and experience will bring you to fucking reality you delusional simple minded faak!
    Yes feminism has destroyed relationships and the pussified millennials have run with it!
    Men can not be men anymore but cowtoe to nasty sluts that abuse everything in their path…

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  62. TL; DR should be: Women are great. Women are perfect. You are shit. You are gross, weak and ugly. Every women you see on the street is BETTER than you. You don’t deserve anything. You don’t deserve love. You are unworthy of affection.

    You are shit. Don’t you ever forget that, you shithead.

    Don’t even bother talking to women unless you are 6’4″, 200lbs, driving a Porsche 911 and a brain surgeon. Women don’t want you. Women don’t need you. If a woman snaps at you and rejects you, it was obviously your fault for being a penniless, limp dicked loser.

    I’m a self help coach. Don’t forget to like and subscribe.

    Am I doing this right guys?

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  63. Let women lack empathy because it makes them feel weak. If a woman is being unempathetic and a girly asshole. She is just making sure you’re not one and being more empathetic towards her as well as sensitive so she can boost her ego.

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  64. This topic said it all, especially with so many women nowadays that are so very severely mentally retarded altogether which there is no help at all for them anyway.

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  65. For real, is this how most straights operate? Men be in control, take the lead, responsibility and be like hunter, and women be subbmissive, follow and be like prey? What’s up with that shitty power dynamics? I mean… oh, boy if i wasn’t suicidal before…

    Also the individuals full responsibility is kinda controversial, cause what if both want to be in charge? Others can and will stand in your way, and you won’t be able to decide the percentage of responsibility per individual most of the time. ‘Other people are hell’ so to say.

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  66. Shitty power dynamics that have work for thousands years and basically created civilization as we know it
    It’s not a dynamic that has been imposed, it’s organic, it’s the natural way of things. just like the Lion protects the den while the lioness feeds the cubs. It’s never the other way around, that means there’s something extremely natural and evident to it.
    But now we live in a unique perido in human history where a new dynamic has been imposed, in the span of 60 years we went from giving eqaul opportunities to women to putting women above men in every aspect of society. Now wonder everyone is unhappy and miserable. I really wonder where this is heading but Trump president is just a symptom of the growing discontent. Feminism has destroyed the stable society. The “female liberation” movement was a huge mistake imposed on us by sinister people with a destructive agenda. When women have more power than men, there is a great inbalance. Women are unfit for this kind of power because they don’t know the concept of restraint, and if they are finacially independent, they don’t care about anything or anyone. Only when men hold the power can we achieve balance and peaceful society. men know what is restraint and financial independence is not their goal, their goal is woman and family, therefore they can give up privilege in order to keep family and women. Women will go on their own if they think the man isn’t bringing enough money. That’s why there are so many single mothers.

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  67. The c*ntish behaviour of women wont stop because society protects them from beating the shit out of them when they behave like c*nts

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  68. Thank God in the past that most women back then were nothing at all like today, otherwise this world would’ve never progressed the way that it did.

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  69. The simple fact is that most women absolutely ARE manipulative, duplicitous, deceitful, untrustworthy, and shallow.
    Yes – I agree with the article that all men should be the best they can, be as strong and successful and interesting in their own space as possible. Yes, that makes them more attractive. Better individuals for themselves, and society. If lucky, they will meet their perfect partner… But we don’t meet perfect partners, it might be only a 90% match – and that 10% is where she’ll lie and two-time, and look for ‘something better’.
    But even those supposedly ‘alpha’ millionaire males cannot be sure their trophy wife isn’t getting knobbed by the pool cleaner (she probably is.)
    Basically, most women cannot think more than two moves ahead. They cannot think “Oh, he’s the man who’ll stay with me through my breast cancer in twenty years, so I should be faithful to him now, and not be a drama queen, or a bitch.”
    We know from animal studies, that many females pair with one strong male, and look to get impregnated by others – just as males impregnate as many females as possible. (Except for swans, keas, and voles.) So-called human “civilisation” is merely a veneer.
    Women live in some inadequate fantasy of momentary ‘perfection’ that they will never achieve – and what they mean by ‘perfection’ is simply strong emotions. That’s why so many women so enjoy being with men who ‘treat them badly’ – at least they’re feeling *something.*
    (Remember – emotions are real, but not true.)
    As we enter the second decade of the 21st century, it’s only going to get worse. Many women did once have to pay a price for being slags, whores, and bitches… now they don’t. They have everything on a plate now, every law bending over to accommodate them specially, and no obligation to fulfill their side of any agreement. And then there’s the male sex drive that makes us slaves to evolution and to them, if there’s the slightest sniff of pussy.
    I trust we’ll die out as a species.

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  70. In my 50+ years of life I have had several serious relationships. The longest have always, without exception, been when I have not cared that much about my partner. Any woman I have actually loved, I have lost. The ones I’ve gone with because there was no-one else at that time have stayed with me. Seven years, five years, etc. As soon as they know you care, they either play up, or bugger off. If they think they have to keep trying – they keep trying.
    My last relationship of five years was with a woman who was used to being extremely attractive, had been married three times, had admitted she’d had numerous affairs while married… and I really wasn’t that into her. We got on very well, of course, the sex was good, but I knew she wasn’t really for me, somehow. And I showed it. She was good looking, and quite a few men came calling and offering her holidays, or a ride in the fast car. I’d laugh and say, yeah, go on then. And she’d stay with me.
    My last two-month relationship was someone who I really did find attractive, and – this is the galling bit – on paper would have made a great life partner, we had so much in common, we fitted perfectly… So she screwed around. She flaked. She made my life misery for two months until I dumped her forever. Her current ‘beau’ is an asshole, I’ve heard about him being rude to restaurant staff, I’ve seen her pet him in the street as he looks away completely uninterested in her. She loves it. I’m guessing if he ever looks into her eyes with interest she’ll go off him. That’s just two examples, there are others.
    I guess the moral of the story is that life is utterly and unavoidably screwed up for so many of us…

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  71. Women can be mean. Women can be cruel?
    Women are mean. Women are cruel. Women are bitches.
    Women are self-centered-gene-machines.
    I do not know at wich age a cute girl changes into a bitch, but it is early, probably around 4 – 5 years

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    • Most women many years ago were real ladies and nothing like today at all. Just too much reality TV shows that these very pathetic women are watching nowadays, since these women really need to get a real life that they don’t have at all nowadays.

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    • They say the ability to manipulate is learned from about that age: 5 years old. Then add-in the sexual power and young women learn to manipulate hugely! “I’ve got my parents wrapped around my little finger”, my 18-year-old ex said with such pride, like it was difficult (love of power, greed, in her mind – no Christian or alternative spirituality, see?)
      That sexual POWER, that gaslighting Feminists and others portray as solely a vulnerability! I mean what a crock, this isn’t the wilderness with no Police or White Knight passers-by or other women etc to help protect any given female, so why do they act like it is, statistically overall? Victimhood-power.

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  72. Great article!! Love how you put if you are not being authentic, you will attract low quality…hence the energy you are giving off. Thank you for a great article. This article is true irrespective of what gender you are. I’m a female, and the above argument holds true in all areas of one’s life such as not being true to oneself at work, etc.

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  73. Women are nothing but shallow, entitled, attentionwhores who think only about themselfs. They have everything come easy, able to get and do anything without any effort and still they complain and are never satisfied. Not one decent normal woman out there, that is worth giving your attention to. They love the free attention, that is what boost their self-esteem and ego. While most men get played, used, manipulated and have nothing to show for it.

    Men are expected to intiate all contact, while women sit back, choosing the best looking and tall men and reject the rest, while gaining ego and self-esteem boost no matter what. And what do most men get? Rejection, losing self esteem, pressure of having to prove yourself time and time again, stress, depression and all because women don’t initiate anything and reject.

    Women are a waste of time. They are to blame for everything.

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  74. Well, this is really terrifying.
    It seems that many men on here don’t see the real reason why women shut down their advances… it’s not because they’re shallow, or duplicitous or manipulative… it’s very simple… FEAR. Personal safety. Most women can sense if a man is safe or not.

    The other thing is that men assume a woman is a bitch because she isn’t open to him, but could be one of a hundred reasons, but men assume it as personal insult about him, it would be far more productive to believe that she is unavailable, or committed to someone else, not having a good day, or making a decision to not date at all. It doesn’t matter. Women don’t owe anyone a justification as to why they don’t feel like accepting a man’s advances.

    I personally grew up poor with little to no advantages, and have worked hard to improve myself. At no time have I ever thought anyone owes me anything. And I have unfortunately had abusive relationships when I literally have given them zero provocation, but still I don’t just assume ALL men are abusive.

    The comments on here are *exactly* the reason why good women (and by good, I mean integrity, honesty, empathetic, intelligent, loving, committed, loyal, understanding, etc) are afraid to even make eye contact with men. They don’t feel SAFE with you. They sense whether a man is safe, and if he has INTEGRITY. It’s terrifying to think of being in the same room as most of the men who commented here. The hatred and dehumanization of women on this thread is why so many good/amazing women reach a point where they don’t even want to smile or say hello to a man, because that face might be hiding a sociopath that will treat them like garbage, or worse. (And yes, a man could say the same thing, certainly.) I have never intentionally hurt a man (or woman, for that matter) but I’ve had many men curse at me over the years while walking down the street because I didn’t reply to his aggressiveness… because I felt extremely unsafe by their behaviour. I did nothing to encourage or incite his abusive words other than walk down the same street as some random man, who then is certain that he is entitled to my attention. Again, I’ll tell you, truthfully, many women will rebuff a man’s advances or run if on some level she senses he is unsafe (assuming here that she’s even looking for a relationship, many are not, simply using a statistical average of those in or not in a relationship)… and by the disturbing comments on here – those women were absolutely correct in their assessment about you – they would NOT BE safe with so many of the men here. This is basic survival. Do men really think this is okay? Why do these men feel entitled to any woman’s attention?

    Someone wise once said, “a man’s worst fear is that women will laugh at him; a women’s worst fear is that a man will kill her.” Does this sound in any way equal or acceptable to you?

    Honestly, if a man can’t be a place of safety and integrity in a sometimes scary world (where there are men who would kill you for being a woman), to any woman, not just the one you think ‘should’ be sleeping with you, you are the problem. So many good women don’t feel safe exactly because of the attacks like the ones on here, and they simply quietly remove themselves from the dating pool, just for their own peace and safety (and so you never get to meet them) that’s more likely than any other reason you have made up in your head to justify your bad behaviour as to the quality (or lack of quality) of the women in this world.

    And those so-called, “good old fashioned girls” you’re all wishing for? They’re hiding from unsafe men like you… who truly don’t believe women are equal to men (NOTE: honoring your partner as an ‘equal’, is different than saying you’re the ‘same’)… this is the real problem.

    I’m *not* a feminist, but thankfully the feminist movements HAS helped give some women the safety, freedom and resources to leave dangerous/lethal situations, where women needed to escape from unsafe men without integrity who hurt them and children.

    You will attract the same energy as you’re putting out. Only when we see and deeply honour each other as equally important in a relationship will we have a world that thrives.

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    • TO HOPEFORABETTERWORLD, Well why is it that many of us good single men get Cursed out by women for no reason at all when we will just say good morning or hello to them? By the way there are a lot of us good single men that are looking to meet a good woman to settle down with, but with so many low life loser bitches that most of these women are today which unfortunately does decrease our chances of meeting a good one now.

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  75. I am gay. I am proud to say I am gay because I will never ever experience a woman’s manipulation. I have never been hurt by female but I still can see Everything. Manipulate after manipulation and again manipulation. Complaining and complaining and putting the blame on others when they do the same and even worse! I am avoiding to have any quarrels with female because having a fight with a female is like fighting with a child that doesn’t understand or doesn’t know what he wants! I am sorry to say that but manipulation is the word i can describe women

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    • Which is exactly why Esther Vilar’s 1971 book The Manipulated Man is dedicated to the sick, disabled and homosexual. Those who by default are in the Out-Group versus Heterosexual society, thus can and do have to see the latter for who it actually is, NOT the lies it tells itself about who it is. Which fuel a lying, deluded paradigm that like the Emperor’s New Clothes, is taken advantage of by nefarious powers-that-be. Women who can be real, and thus teach their male AND female kids the TRUE way of the world, are a breath of fresh air.

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  76. Oh my god Hopeforabetterworld, thank you for writing that. You hit the nail on the head–I am a woman who is afraid to even make eye contact with men in some situations, for exactly the reasons you describe. Was reading some of these comments just in a terrified despair. Thank goodness for you.

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    • So, Ariana, what of this pathetic FEAR? It is media-exacerbated PARANOIA! Statistically, women are FAR less likely to be attacked than they perceive the threat to be (orders of magnitude less).
      Your paranoia is an excuse to behave how, towards any innocent man who may cross your path in future? That’s right, you think like that, men are the enemy. Why? Men got you 50% of the way to where you are today, something like that… Men’s risk-taking and war-fighting and sacrifice (along with women’s obviously, I’ll never lie to exaggerate the effectiveness of my argument, and isn’t that the point here – bitches constantly do this, gaslight etc and then they become MOTHERS, often single ones – and pass that BS to their kids). So, why not fear black people if you’re going to be prejudiced and paranoid? Black people are more likely to be in poverty and poor people are more likely to rob you on the street. But who we actually see on the street and fear is determined by something other than mere poverty and melanin levels, right? We make the effort there in order to live up to the socialised expectation to not be racist, right? Or some do… now if that is all true – what man-hatred to afford that respect to a 15% minority but not the 50% of society that is male… See the problem and why women are seen as irrational (and abusively-so, thus it MATTERS), yet? Keep gaslighting people that you can’t be part of the problem, too, that’s working out really well for society… with more fear each year! Who profits from fear? Big Brother Government-Mafia Protection Rackets, is who.

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    • Your fear is entirely misplaced simply because you, as a woman, have near-infinite power in the court. That’s all you need. It’s your ultimate weapon, so to speak. You can’t say I’m wrong, either, because I’m not. I’ve seen it happen with my father, and I know it could happen to me some day.

      Point is, you don’t need to fear men at all because you actually have all the power.

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  77. Hey Mike, I’m happy to say I’m not gay because I will never experience a gay man’s drama and immaturity. I have never been hurt by a gay man but I can see everything. They’re so whiney and manipulative. Complaining and acting like drama queens. Childish is the only word to describe gay men.

    See how stupid it is to stereotype???

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  78. “Hopeforabetterworld” is exactly what is wrong with women these days. They love getting free attention, while not having to do anything. Womem owe men nothing, yet women want and expect everything from a man. You women are entitled princesses who always get what they want, without any effort, while many men have to put themselfs out there, otherwise nothing ever will happen. You women have no idea what a one side life looks like. Having to do all and in return getting no attention, rejection and the stress and mental aspect, because of it. Every woman I talk with, does not understand how a man’s life could have been without relationships, intimacy, sex, having a family of your own. Why? Because women don’t have those problems. If they want any of these, they can have them with little to no effort. And in return they judge you and look for the blame within you.

    All I read is more and more excuses. A woman who never initiated in her entire life, yet got anything she wanted with no effort. You women have it so hard…. Gtfo with your bullshit.

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  79. With most women nowadays that are very brain dead to begin with, which this tells the whole true story right there. Toxic women all over the place today unfortunately.

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  80. >Someone wise once said, “a man’s worst fear is that women will laugh at him; a women’s worst fear is that a man will kill her.” Does this sound in any way equal or acceptable to you?

    Well, what you should understand is that for men some things are worse than death, and current day feminism is having sadistic pleasure in degrading men in every possible way.

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  81. For you guys out there:

    “Get beyond love and grief, exist for the good of man and defeat the lesser man. ”

    Miyamoto Musashi

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    • If women had been just like they were many years ago, then many of us single guys would’ve been married already with our own family as well. Today unfortunately, most women just want to sleep around all the time.

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  82. Prob with this advice is you end up ignoring women or just not caring about them. The irony being women attracted to the man who isn’t interested in women. And so western civilization collapsed in the face of faster breeding ones

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  83. Okay Sir, then please let me know your thoughts on how I can improve, if I am guilty of being too short, so women don’t even find me a male. It’s a perfect example of female eugenics.

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    • It’s clearly your fault, fellow short person. It’s OUR fault for being born with genes that make us smaller than the rest. For shame, Piki. For shame!

      I’ll be honest; it does suck being small. You, I and others are already at a disadvantage just because we lost the genetic lottery. But, look at Warrick Davis. The mad lad has a wife, a family (I’m pretty sure, anyways) and has a thriving career. If he can do it, so can you. So can I.

      We just have to get up and go for it.

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  84. It is funny how much women were different many years ago when men in those days really had no problem finding love at all. Now today women have their very high unrealistic outrageous expectations along with their very high standards as well, which makes these type of women just very pathetic altogether now more than ever. So of course finding love today for many of us single men is very difficult now because of this, and it is these type of women that really think they’re all that as well. Very nasty low life real loser women that are all over the place nowadays unfortunately, especially the ones that are really so very nasty to many of us men when we will just try to start a conversation with them. And there are many of us good men out there that don’t play head games like most of these moron women do.

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  85. Most women are very evil rotten no good bitches these days, that is for sure. Today it has become so very dangerous for many of us guys just to say good morning or hello to a woman that many of us would like to really meet, and then we get Cursed out by them so many times for no reason at all. So many very mentally disturbed low life loser bitches these days all over the place, which is why so many of us single guys can’t meet a decent normal woman anymore today because of the way women are now. And many of us men are certainly not too blame either.

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  86. My 5 cents (as a male)

    I don’t believe most women are bitches, and even some that are, do it as a emotional defensive shield, to avoid getting hurt.
    Yes, there are some nasty servants of Satan out there, but fortunately i believe these are a minority. For these, i completely agree with this article. You should be in control in such situations.
    However, for the others…I don’t agree, as the world stops being that black & white and becomes grey.
    When something between them and you fails, or just doesn’t start, you should consider this:

    1-You’re not her type, you’ll never be. Accepting that is OK and your world shouldn’t be come crashing down because of it. IF you are the best person you know, sooner or later women will notice that. Just move on and became that interesting guy you know you are.

    2-Be in total control can lead to a path of too much independence, which is ok if you are moving alone to deserted island. If you don’t need relationships, go for it.
    Or…sooner or later you have to lower your own defensive shields.That lead me to the next point

    3-Everyone in this world, the minute they open up to some kind of relationship, they will be vulnerable on some level. This is NOT a flaw of human nature. It’s just life. And here , IMHO, you have to have your “emotional radar” turned on and fine tuned. Beware of your surroundings, detect toxic people and environments, and just kicked them out of your life, because they will pull you down.
    You will fail, we all do. The trick is having the strength and skills to overcome that emotional knock in the head, and move on with your life to a better chapter.

    4-No, it’s not always your fault. And this is the point I most disagree in this article. Women are not the perfect beings on a high horse, they want us to believe they are.
    Even if they are not bitches, they are just humans, and they will screw up as much as you do.
    Even if you get all your facts right, sometimes is both your fault or just theirs, because you both screw up, or they did.
    And no attitude or emotional setup can prepare you for this. But I will agree that it might help overcome better these predicaments.
    And on the other hand, you did everything right and still nothing happened, because of a multitude of reasons that has to do with them, not with you. Just accept and move on.
    Don’t have to take my word for it. I’ve listened to female friends regretting how dumb and stupid they were in these situations. How come is not their fault?

    Final thoughts, which I agree with the blogger:

    As the blogger pointed out, being friends with a women, doesn’t mean jack shit physically/emotionally. They DON’T see it that way. If your goal isn’t friendship stop being the buddy, or you’ll be helping her in her love life, like if you were her BFF, but with no boobs or vagina. Stop it.

    Don’t generalize them. What one loves, the other one absolutely hates. Trying to deal with them the same way , just because it worked with this particular female, is going down a road of failure. If fact they hate that. If they notice it, they will shoot you on the spot.

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  87. This is why so many of us guys are still single today because of these very pathetic low life loser women unfortunately, since they’re very much too blame to begin with.

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  88. Women are the needy clingy boring ones and there bitchy if you don’t give them everything they want . The difference between a man and a women is women are so self absorbed . i get it women bare children but the bitchiness and selfish self absorbed nature is so deeply rooted that just seaps out a every opportunity. Bitchy women are extremely exhausting for example you go into a shop all you want is to buy a carton of milk and you find yourself dumped upon by that bitchy nature you can find daily life fairly exhausting if you don’t know how to deal with bitches

    The start of this post I found fairly funny about and not even getting sex that’s were the problems lie your not entitled to sex just because she’s a female and you male .

    The problems with both sexes here is people have lost the simple aspect of treating people as though there an actual person not a sex object and not a toy for your entertainment or excessive demands both are deeply entrenched in some people and it makes me question are these people ever happy.

    A bitch is a bitch not because she doesn’t offer sex lol a bitch is a bitch because she is so venomous and repellent because of her insatiable demands and expectations in almost every aspect of life. When a lot of the time the male is simply having a conversation as another human being .

    Not every single encounter or conversation is ryt now sex is a possibility. Not every male is a rapist either lol He’ll he might just be buying some groceries and then go the fuck home .

    Bitches are extremely self absorbed they don’t care who they upset they just seem to drag people into there little world of hate compleltey unexpectedly.

    They think it all leads back to sex they think everything is about them. It’s really funny that when you are going about your daily life you find you’ve been drawn in by there bitchy whirlwind . So they actually drawn attention to themselves.

    At the end of the day if all I want to do is go about my business but find myself being drawn in by your bitchiness then sorry but you are a bitch.

    Get over yourselves

    And people should not have to put up with your shit

    Especially if they don’t even know you

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  89. Apparently there is just a ton of pain from this article. Men should just leave women alone. Period, just focus on being a respected individual. Men should just live a tactical life and own a gun but only in defense of life should you ever have to use it. Because well that’s another story.

    Personally I think flying fighter planes is what men should focus on doing ultimately.

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  90. The real good old fashioned type of women years ago really existed, and most women really were in those days. Today most women are Toxic.

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  91. Most women back in the old days were never ever like today at all, which is why it was very easy to date and find love back then for those who really wanted it. Feminism is everywhere now unfortunately, which is why many of us single men can’t find love.

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  92. USA has always placed women’s interests and need above males. Since childhood, we have been taught that men are expendable and women are to be cherished. In the USA, the courts have always favored women over men. The justice system too has favored women. Males are much more likely to be arrested than females. Some of the most road raged tailgating drivers i encounter on almost a daily basis are young females, yet their insurance is still cheaper because they are females more times than not. Accidents aside of course. Society caters to women, ads are tailored to them as they hold all of the buying power for decision making in the household thanks to the eunuch males of the United States. I completely understand why many of young men prefer the company of other young men these days and forego the female….”charms.” Women hold no power over a gay man, lol
    Last final interesting observation. Trans women kicking the crap out of all the womens sports. This started because there were female sports athletes who insisted on competing with the men as they were certain they would show them who was boss. As it turned out, they lost in the most horrible fashion, but the precedent was set. Now, the trans females, even the worst ones who competed and lost in the men sports realm are wiping out female records left-and-right. Gee…guess they aren’t as strong as they thought they were. Most likely started believing the hype from all of the female bravado/Rambo roles nowadays. If you are looking for a future nag to whine, moan and complain, then by all means proceed. Just remember this post when the misery begins… and it will, lol.

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  93. You have to go back to the old days when most women were the very complete opposite of today, and real ladies as well which made dating and meeting a nice woman so much easier. Damn, what in the world happened to them these days? No wonder why so many of us men are still single today, and not at all by choice either.

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  94. It is what it is.. Nature in its infinite wisdom makes women the way they are and men the way they are. There is probably a lot of clever stuff going on we can’t even fathom.

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